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Why do men like women who act like little girls?

TheCatWoman

I've been thinking about this for a while, men often complain that women like "bad guys" and not "nice ones" like them. But there's a rarely acknowleged equivalent, men going for little girly princesses, the child women, who pretend they don't understand things and can't do things and all the men think it's cute and go falling over themselves to help, the rest of us just get told not to be stupid and learn how to fix it ourselves. The child woman, will also be incredibly manipulative and often end up taking the man for a ride, emotionaly and often financially too and they seem to keep getting away with it. Men I know who've come out of a relationship with these sort of women, swear they never want to be in a relationship like that again, but within months or sometimes weeks have found another who treats them just as badly and they seem incapable of learning from their mistakes.

I'm not trying to have a go at anyone here, apart from maybe the child women, I'm just curious to know if others recognise this pattern of behaviour and how they deal with it? 

  • My random thought is

    ~100 years ago, strong men were seen as safe; and servile women may have been preferred by men. Why? What is most useful for the rulers of society tends to be internalised by members. It was useful to be strong, it was useful to be obedient or compliant in order to serve the strong.

    So I think the predilection for strong man and obedient woman fit what society was like some time ago. But that is half the story.

    The "bad guy", and the "child-like woman" also seem to be archetypes for what is rule-breaking. An occasional slip with a rebellious man rather than boring Popeye; and, on the other side, with a young (or rebellious) woman. 

    To be clear, I don't think men desire children; but men desire young women that behave in a rebellious or rule breaking way (which can be dressed up as child-like), which shares some child-like aspects. Similar for women.

    Seeking the prohibited is an felt as an act of freedom from what is seen as oppression; this disobedience or challenge to authority and rules may have biological roots. 

    I think men can more easily acknowledge the dark side without harsh criticism.

    Slowly "strong men" model is being replaced by rich or powerful men, but the "bad guy" remains.

    I expect the same will happen for women: obedient replaced by powerful, and the "child-like" one remains.

  • TheCatWoman said:
    I'm just curious to know if others recognise this pattern of behaviour

    I see it a lot. I'm seen by many as someone who can fix / install things for them (home renovation as well as tech) and they will often switch to play the poor, helpless thing to try to trigger a protective instinct and help them (my suspicion of what is happening).

    I've experience this for most of my life because the skills I have are often not cheap or easily available. Only on a handful of occasions has it been more than just wanting the job done (ie it was an excuse for seduction) out of hundreds of requests, so I can safely rule out it being that I was seen as just eye candy.

    TheCatWoman said:
    The child woman, will also be incredibly manipulative and often end up taking the man for a ride

    It is not just the "child" woman as you put it. It is common for women to be manipulative when they want something I have found. Some are just more subtle than others while some will flirt until they get what they want then shut down once they have achieved the objective.

    I've had far more attempts at manipulation by women over the years than men by a large margin. Men will often just ask, maybe consider bartering for something but will not try to manipulate with hints of possible sexual favours of I play my cards right (well there was one guy but I think that was statistically irrelevant...).

    Women will often be quite flirty until the job is done then switch off the charm. No need for it anymore since my services are no longer required - this has been my most common experience.

    TheCatWoman said:
    men often complain that women like "bad guys" and not "nice ones" like them.

    In my early 30s I put this to the test as I had heard about it but was skeptical. It wasn't my finest hour but I treated a girl I was dating quite badly and I've never been chased so hard in my life.

    In retrospect I suspect there were other issues underlying her need to be with someone and she probably also enjoyed the very comfortable lifestyle I brought to the table at the time but I could easily get her to do whatever I wanted and she would do it just so I wouldn't leave.

    I was faithful throughout the relationship, never hit her and always made sure she got a lot of attention which she craved - when I did move beyond the stage of being the bad boy and became the attentive boyfriend then she lost interest slowly but surely.

    Back to the subject in hand - I think women will act like little girls to manipulate men and men love to feel wanted, capable, useful and desired which this triggers in them.

    This is of course quite a simplification but there are no absolutes in the gender roles that people play. The above does generalise about behaviour but that is what was asked about in the first place I believe.

  • This topic is so alien to me that I actually red it with intrest. I always hear that I'm honest and simple.

    There are good guys and bad guys everywhere and manipulative people and those who never learn from their mistakes.