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Why do men like women who act like little girls?

TheCatWoman

I've been thinking about this for a while, men often complain that women like "bad guys" and not "nice ones" like them. But there's a rarely acknowleged equivalent, men going for little girly princesses, the child women, who pretend they don't understand things and can't do things and all the men think it's cute and go falling over themselves to help, the rest of us just get told not to be stupid and learn how to fix it ourselves. The child woman, will also be incredibly manipulative and often end up taking the man for a ride, emotionaly and often financially too and they seem to keep getting away with it. Men I know who've come out of a relationship with these sort of women, swear they never want to be in a relationship like that again, but within months or sometimes weeks have found another who treats them just as badly and they seem incapable of learning from their mistakes.

I'm not trying to have a go at anyone here, apart from maybe the child women, I'm just curious to know if others recognise this pattern of behaviour and how they deal with it? 

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  • I've never understood a lot of people's ideas of how to go about relationships. In uni, finding out about flatmates relationships, I could not get my head around the ideas of playing mind games, ones being drawn to boys that stole cars (literal bad boys), or ones that it seemed obvious they were being manipulated by boyfriends, to the point I started worrying that these boyfriends must have grown up in houses where their mothers must be in really abusive relationships  and wishing I could somehow help these invisible suffering women.

    So glad I met my lovely straightforward husband and we are both quiet and rational. The biggest problems for him is dealing with my 'quirks', but at least we finally know why after 20+ years.

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  • I've never understood a lot of people's ideas of how to go about relationships. In uni, finding out about flatmates relationships, I could not get my head around the ideas of playing mind games, ones being drawn to boys that stole cars (literal bad boys), or ones that it seemed obvious they were being manipulated by boyfriends, to the point I started worrying that these boyfriends must have grown up in houses where their mothers must be in really abusive relationships  and wishing I could somehow help these invisible suffering women.

    So glad I met my lovely straightforward husband and we are both quiet and rational. The biggest problems for him is dealing with my 'quirks', but at least we finally know why after 20+ years.

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  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing
    Cinnabar_wing said:
    seemed obvious they were being manipulated by boyfriends, to the point I started worrying that these boyfriends must have grown up in houses where their mothers must be in really abusive relationships  and wishing I could somehow help these invisible suffering women.

    I find this train of thought quite interesting.

    The boyfriends are exhibiting bad behaviour and rather than think that they are acting out because they are suffering you jumped instead to their mother being abused instead.

    There seem so many other options - perahaps the boys were abused by their mother, by siblings or father, maybe the boyfrineds are psychopaths, are mentally ill or anything else.

    I have seen people project their own experiences this way when jumping to conclusions and it helps to realise this so you can better understand that there are so many other things it could be and that your bias is not allowed to interfere with the analysis.

    I don't mean this as a dig and I don't expect an answer but consdering it when you are analysing a situation and you should help you reach a more balanced answer.