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Why do men like women who act like little girls?

TheCatWoman

I've been thinking about this for a while, men often complain that women like "bad guys" and not "nice ones" like them. But there's a rarely acknowleged equivalent, men going for little girly princesses, the child women, who pretend they don't understand things and can't do things and all the men think it's cute and go falling over themselves to help, the rest of us just get told not to be stupid and learn how to fix it ourselves. The child woman, will also be incredibly manipulative and often end up taking the man for a ride, emotionaly and often financially too and they seem to keep getting away with it. Men I know who've come out of a relationship with these sort of women, swear they never want to be in a relationship like that again, but within months or sometimes weeks have found another who treats them just as badly and they seem incapable of learning from their mistakes.

I'm not trying to have a go at anyone here, apart from maybe the child women, I'm just curious to know if others recognise this pattern of behaviour and how they deal with it? 

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  • It depends on whether you are refering to behaviour or appearance, or both. 

    Men have a protective instinct. A damsel in distress is someone to save. It's a bit fairytale but it's appealing and what you grew up with. It is a very risky prospect though, as you noticed, and is quite often dysfunctional and manipulative.

    Youthful looks are also hard-wired attraction items. Wide eyes, soft skin, etc. The Japanese play on this in their comics, to a questionable degree in my opinion.

    Women are also at their most fertile when younger, so it is playing to biology.

    You also have the consideration that intimacy is when a man is most vulnerable, physically and mentally. So having someone who looks compliant is lower risk. I suppose there may also be a power trip element too.

    The push pull dynamic, inconsistent behaviour with affection then harshness, is psychologically very addictive and very hard to break away from.

    Some is conscious, some unconscious. Not all is intentional.

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  • It depends on whether you are refering to behaviour or appearance, or both. 

    Men have a protective instinct. A damsel in distress is someone to save. It's a bit fairytale but it's appealing and what you grew up with. It is a very risky prospect though, as you noticed, and is quite often dysfunctional and manipulative.

    Youthful looks are also hard-wired attraction items. Wide eyes, soft skin, etc. The Japanese play on this in their comics, to a questionable degree in my opinion.

    Women are also at their most fertile when younger, so it is playing to biology.

    You also have the consideration that intimacy is when a man is most vulnerable, physically and mentally. So having someone who looks compliant is lower risk. I suppose there may also be a power trip element too.

    The push pull dynamic, inconsistent behaviour with affection then harshness, is psychologically very addictive and very hard to break away from.

    Some is conscious, some unconscious. Not all is intentional.

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