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Fitting in with big groups

Autistic_girl

Hi guys,

I joined a new friendship group and it's such a big group, there is 11 sometimes 12 people in the group and my old friendship group mainly had like 4 people. Today, it was such a struggle to be part of the group and get involved and communicate. I kind of just sat by myself in the corner and I had no idea how to join in.

Big groups are really loud and overwhelming for me, especially when I am in a bad mood. But I also don't want to isolate myself and I am friends with some people in the group and I do like them but sometimes it just isn't nice and I feel sad and uncomfortable. And I feel left out a lot.

Does anyone have any advice?

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  • Interesting question. I find I stay quiet. If possible, I identify an individual or a friendly looking group of two to approach. Groups tend to split into smaller groups. I try to avoid this kind of situation, but these days I find it's made easier by thinking and accepting that this is the way I am, and feeling fine with it. If a group of 11 felt like the wrong fit I'd avoid it and focus on a nucleus of preferred people. 

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  • Interesting question. I find I stay quiet. If possible, I identify an individual or a friendly looking group of two to approach. Groups tend to split into smaller groups. I try to avoid this kind of situation, but these days I find it's made easier by thinking and accepting that this is the way I am, and feeling fine with it. If a group of 11 felt like the wrong fit I'd avoid it and focus on a nucleus of preferred people. 

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