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Struggle to sleep after busy day around others

Autismman

When I’m around others for long periods of time, not close family as such but colleagues etc I often feel too wired to properly shut off at bed time. I get what I consider to be a delayed reaction to all the stimuli, as if I walk around in a protective bubble all day then all of a sudden when night approaches the thoughts start knocking at the door of my mind. I run over conversations, try to guess what someone may have thought of my greetings, did I appear weird at all in some way? Are others judging me or am I just over-thinking?; Mr over-thinking is my life long friend. Usually the next day when I have slept these thoughts and concerns lessen.

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  • This is me too. I work as a personal assistant and am around colleagues all day and at the time I feel like I did well but then after work when I'm on my own I over-think everything! I run over everything in my head, did I do that right? Should I have done this instead? Did I answer my boss correctly? Was she expecting more from me?

    It can be overwhelming when my head goes into overdrive like this and it affects my sleeping as well and I really wish it wouldn't as I'm tired again an hour after waking up in the morning.

    I wish I had the answers how not to do this but I hope you feel a little better knowing you're not the only one who does this.

    Hugs.

  • in reply to Aprilia

    It’s exhausting and time consuming just trying to ease your mind and convince yourself all is well or that no one’s upset or annoyed at you for anything you’ve done. I had a thought just now that for me I think some of this stems from feelings of injustice I’ve felt when others have said something I consider blunt and rude or said in such a way that didn’t warrant it. I’m quite easy going as long as others show respect but I always remember the name and face of those who’ve burnt me. 

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    Autismman said:
    I’m quite easy going as long as others show respect but I always remember the name and face of those who’ve burnt me. 

    I'm the exact same and it can be really difficult. Sometimes I will just randomly think of people who hurt me and it will ruin my whole mood.

    My own thoughts and memories of the past always bring me down. A therapist said to forgive and move on, which I have forgiven or tried to forgive said people but I still think about them and what was said and that always brings my mood down.

    Whenever I'm needing sleep my brain is always thinking on stuff like this. Very annoying.

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  • in reply to Autismman
    Autismman said:
    I’m quite easy going as long as others show respect but I always remember the name and face of those who’ve burnt me. 

    I'm the exact same and it can be really difficult. Sometimes I will just randomly think of people who hurt me and it will ruin my whole mood.

    My own thoughts and memories of the past always bring me down. A therapist said to forgive and move on, which I have forgiven or tried to forgive said people but I still think about them and what was said and that always brings my mood down.

    Whenever I'm needing sleep my brain is always thinking on stuff like this. Very annoying.

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  • in reply to Aprilia

    I mean I’m not so much of the forgiving sort and I think that’s because I lack empathy and the ability to try to begin to understand why someone may have behaved in a certain way if I’m honest. I suppose I view negative experiences as lessons learned although this lack of awareness of others ways or being or even temporary ways of being can lead me down a negative thought process of not wanting to trust anyone. If someone had traits that I deem incompatible with me and make me uncomfortable I’ll do my best to cut them out entirely.