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I Don't Know What To Do Anymore

NAS39135

Hello everyone, 

I m really struggling, and have been for months but just tried to press on, fake smiling and trying to interact with people when I wasn't 100%. 

I thought being diagnosed would help, but it hasn't at all. I was late diagnosed at 27 in 2017 and still going nowhere. I have no references for work or volunteering. I can't socialise without being embarrassed for just simply talking to someone. I feel lost and empty. I've had a lot of pain and grief in my life and I don't think I'll ever get over that. I've been in and out of therapy for years since my teens. 

There's just no signpost anymore. I have nothing I want to achieve in the future because my chances were screwed from when I was born when date decided to put me in the hands of incapable caregivers who were emotionally elsewhere. 

I don't know what to do anymore Pensive

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  • Tricky thing changing one's perspective about life.

    We all view it through the lens of our own experiences and expectations and also have others imposed upon us.

    maybe trying something abstract to see beyond what appears to be the obvious to explore something hypothetical?  e.g the hypothesis that it is possible for you to "know what to do"

    There are all sorts of thought experiments that play into this.

    I can only speak from my own experience here, still...

    I figure that maybe one can "never do anything right" it can lead to a sense of never knowing what to do for fear of getting it wrong?

    So I get to a principle of maybe trying with things that don't matter so much to start with and then get used to handling the inevitable knock backs of not getting things right all the time?

    It's surprisingly hard to let go and feel free.

    Motivation and emotions are really closely linked.

    I hope you find a connection to happiness.

    Best Wishes

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  • Tricky thing changing one's perspective about life.

    We all view it through the lens of our own experiences and expectations and also have others imposed upon us.

    maybe trying something abstract to see beyond what appears to be the obvious to explore something hypothetical?  e.g the hypothesis that it is possible for you to "know what to do"

    There are all sorts of thought experiments that play into this.

    I can only speak from my own experience here, still...

    I figure that maybe one can "never do anything right" it can lead to a sense of never knowing what to do for fear of getting it wrong?

    So I get to a principle of maybe trying with things that don't matter so much to start with and then get used to handling the inevitable knock backs of not getting things right all the time?

    It's surprisingly hard to let go and feel free.

    Motivation and emotions are really closely linked.

    I hope you find a connection to happiness.

    Best Wishes

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