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I Don't Know What To Do Anymore

NAS39135

Hello everyone, 

I m really struggling, and have been for months but just tried to press on, fake smiling and trying to interact with people when I wasn't 100%. 

I thought being diagnosed would help, but it hasn't at all. I was late diagnosed at 27 in 2017 and still going nowhere. I have no references for work or volunteering. I can't socialise without being embarrassed for just simply talking to someone. I feel lost and empty. I've had a lot of pain and grief in my life and I don't think I'll ever get over that. I've been in and out of therapy for years since my teens. 

There's just no signpost anymore. I have nothing I want to achieve in the future because my chances were screwed from when I was born when date decided to put me in the hands of incapable caregivers who were emotionally elsewhere. 

I don't know what to do anymore Pensive

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  • I’m sorry - it’s so difficult isn’t it? It can feel impossibly hard sometimes. I would say: you can’t change your past - do all you can to let go of regret and sadness and bitterness about the past. I know it’s not easy - but it’s important to try to do this. I grew up in a very dysfunctional family and I found that the only way not to be trapped in that was to accept it and let it go. The past is gone. And also: try not to look ahead too much as it’s so easy to assume the worst, and lose hope of anything ever improving. So that leaves you with the present moment - try to focus on that as much as possible. What things - however tiny and everyday - can you still enjoy. For me this is things like certain foods, going for a walk, watching a particular YouTubers videos - just comforting and pleasant things. Really focus on those, and enjoying those. See what conditions of happiness you actually have available - however small. For example - at the moment I have a toothache. I am REALLY looking forward to not having toothache! To be able to drink a hot chocolate drink and my tooth not hurting - I’m going to really appreciate that. Look into the micro enjoyments you can find in your life. I’ve got to go out now - I just wanted to say something because I relate to how you feel and I just wanted to express solidarity and wish you luck. 

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  • I’m sorry - it’s so difficult isn’t it? It can feel impossibly hard sometimes. I would say: you can’t change your past - do all you can to let go of regret and sadness and bitterness about the past. I know it’s not easy - but it’s important to try to do this. I grew up in a very dysfunctional family and I found that the only way not to be trapped in that was to accept it and let it go. The past is gone. And also: try not to look ahead too much as it’s so easy to assume the worst, and lose hope of anything ever improving. So that leaves you with the present moment - try to focus on that as much as possible. What things - however tiny and everyday - can you still enjoy. For me this is things like certain foods, going for a walk, watching a particular YouTubers videos - just comforting and pleasant things. Really focus on those, and enjoying those. See what conditions of happiness you actually have available - however small. For example - at the moment I have a toothache. I am REALLY looking forward to not having toothache! To be able to drink a hot chocolate drink and my tooth not hurting - I’m going to really appreciate that. Look into the micro enjoyments you can find in your life. I’ve got to go out now - I just wanted to say something because I relate to how you feel and I just wanted to express solidarity and wish you luck. 

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