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Being me

fuzz

In my head the narrative was there to keep me 'fitting in' 'you need to be ' ' you need to do ' . You should do this or that. You shouldn't do that or not one will like you. Mostly from my wonderful mum who adopted me. She did it she got me so I could be and do all that and because of these wonderful brains we have I've achieved done and contributed loads, still do still work 2 days. Have great kids and grand kids.

But great joy I don't have to be anything but me now and that's happened since I semi retired probably why I finally got autistic spectrum diagnosis at 70 which fitted the jigsaw puzzle in  such a relief really

Does anyone else feel freed by finally knowing its autism that makes u unique?

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  • fuzz said:
    In my head the narrative was there to keep me 'fitting in' 'you need to be ' ' you need to do ' . You should do this or that. You shouldn't do that or not one will like you.

    My therapist always taught me to stop and analise who I was trying to do these things for. Was it for me in order to fit in or was I actually trying to people please and not cause disturbance to the others.

    I've learned to be comfortable being a minor disturbance and to make it a part of my persona. I don't want to be like other people because I'm not. I am comfortable in my own skin, don't really care about their opinions on the whole and have a much stronger feeling of "self".

    Confidence is a good way to carry this off. Be the unusual personality and so long as you are not causing any harm then people trying to take you to task for it are in for a hard time.

    That's just me of course, everyone will have their own approach.

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  • fuzz said:
    In my head the narrative was there to keep me 'fitting in' 'you need to be ' ' you need to do ' . You should do this or that. You shouldn't do that or not one will like you.

    My therapist always taught me to stop and analise who I was trying to do these things for. Was it for me in order to fit in or was I actually trying to people please and not cause disturbance to the others.

    I've learned to be comfortable being a minor disturbance and to make it a part of my persona. I don't want to be like other people because I'm not. I am comfortable in my own skin, don't really care about their opinions on the whole and have a much stronger feeling of "self".

    Confidence is a good way to carry this off. Be the unusual personality and so long as you are not causing any harm then people trying to take you to task for it are in for a hard time.

    That's just me of course, everyone will have their own approach.

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