Occupational health/probation

Hi stuart333 .

Thanks for reply...sorry i think my message was unclear. I have autism. So find shifts difficult without appropriate adjustments. The good shifts ive had theyve been good ive bee  able to deliver, do service work, ive been verbal as opssosdd to having an overloadz being nom verbal. Even during good shifts ive still needed the adjustments of time out (but only like 15mins) and they need to adjust the music volume so it better suits me. Reventky my mamager has reflected well done you are doing so well, your pushing yourself and the time its taking you to nee to regulate is lessening. 

I was absent thurs because o was worried of who the manager was on shift, new location travel, and the previous shift I did Saturday before one of the workers commented on my weight 3 times "your that thin you could break", the manager on shift commented to others we've had to switch the music off "because of her (shortened name)- shes been spoken to before on not shortening my name. I asked to go on break for a breather 3 times and she refused/ignored. Again she been told if I ask for a breather then to allow it (there was no reason for her to refuse). I'd asked her 2 times id there anything you'd like me to help with she said "no", even though there were actions to do- sometimes i just need bit of directing again this has been passed on. The comments made.me very upset and this was playing on my head hence why I didn't want to go.  

I wasn't able to notify as my phone couldn't send message or call. Which i know isnt valid but id said over email tues that thered a possibility I may lot come on Thurs because of fireworks overload. 

I haven't told my maamager what happened sat shift with comments and the upset tbis caused. This is what I was deciding on do I say or not. His always encouraged me to buy it feels scary!  And im.sxared to say it now incase they think im making it up just to 'big it up', 'justiy.

My probation ends. Hr dont work from base and hr have already said they can't extend when my mamahger has asked if it can be extended further. But hr are a.bit ridiculous at their job (so he says). Service manager has emailed saying she wants a meeting with me, her and my mamager before my probation ends and im scared this is her kicking me out!

You should tell your manager, like they said. They are trying to help you. I know it's difficult because you are scared, but sometimes you need to trust people.

By the way, I guessed you gave autism, it's why most people are here.

Its just how.. if ut say it now the could think I'm making it up... I did put in my email to them, when I emailed them to apologise that something happened on my previous shift to upset me with the hope they might have asked what but the service manager kist replied saying that as a service wr need to know, we were worried aout you and for my availability for the 3 way meeting...

This is what I said, they are worried about you. They want to help. But they can't help if they don't know.

They also don't want to ask too much. You assume they will ask. They assume you will say, since you manager told you too, so they think it is not important to you don't want to tell them.

Remember, one of the autism issues is communication. You, like all of us a times, are now seeing that.

I have communication issues sometimes. The solution is to calm down, think about it, then ask if you are unsure. Try not to assume things, this is what causes problems.

This is what I said, they are worried about you. They want to help. But they can't help if they don't know.

They also don't want to ask too much. You assume they will ask. They assume you will say, since you manager told you too, so they think it is not important to you don't want to tell them.

Remember, one of the autism issues is communication. You, like all of us a times, are now seeing that.

I have communication issues sometimes. The solution is to calm down, think about it, then ask if you are unsure. Try not to assume things, this is what causes problems.