Occupational health/probation

Invisible_me said:

I was doing really well had good shifts then ladt thurs because of bonfire night upset of comments I didn't go in , and was so tired I couldn't tell anyone in not coming in. 

This will be a big red flag for them unfortunately. The lack of communication is going to be what I think they will focus on as the employee rulebook will no doubt say that you must contact them.

Do you have anyone you could have used to send the message for you? If not can you do this in future?

The once change I think you will have here is to apologise, say you were in a state you were unable to use your phone and could not contact them. Tell them you have put in place a mechanism where someone else will be able to do this for you should you ever be incapacitated again.

Invisible_me said:

all I want is a supportive 121 conversation. 

Since you have broken the rules in the employee rulebook I expect this will be a meeting with an HR person present as it is likely to impact your probation. You broke the rules and there are consequences, but like anybody else in your situation,

I would expect them to ask for an explanation so make sure you have this ready in advance, ideally written down in case you feel stressed.

Consider how you can tell them it will be avoided in future (both being absent and getting in contact if it happens).

I would expect they may offer to extend your probation to 6 months so they can monitor you further and make sure you are not working beyond your ability to cope. If this happens then chill - it is one of the better outcomes.

The single biggest thing I would take from this is that you need to work on reducing your chances of having a meltdown like this again. I would recommend spending some money on a therapist who understands autism well and can help you manage the build up to meltdowns to avoid them happening.

If you can do this then tell you manager as this shows initiative and self development on your part and also shows you are making efforts to be reliable for them.

That would be my expectations of the process and my thoughts on what I would do in your situation.

Invisible_me said:

I was doing really well had good shifts then ladt thurs because of bonfire night upset of comments I didn't go in , and was so tired I couldn't tell anyone in not coming in. 

This will be a big red flag for them unfortunately. The lack of communication is going to be what I think they will focus on as the employee rulebook will no doubt say that you must contact them.

Do you have anyone you could have used to send the message for you? If not can you do this in future?

The once change I think you will have here is to apologise, say you were in a state you were unable to use your phone and could not contact them. Tell them you have put in place a mechanism where someone else will be able to do this for you should you ever be incapacitated again.

Invisible_me said:

all I want is a supportive 121 conversation. 

Since you have broken the rules in the employee rulebook I expect this will be a meeting with an HR person present as it is likely to impact your probation. You broke the rules and there are consequences, but like anybody else in your situation,

I would expect them to ask for an explanation so make sure you have this ready in advance, ideally written down in case you feel stressed.

Consider how you can tell them it will be avoided in future (both being absent and getting in contact if it happens).

I would expect they may offer to extend your probation to 6 months so they can monitor you further and make sure you are not working beyond your ability to cope. If this happens then chill - it is one of the better outcomes.

The single biggest thing I would take from this is that you need to work on reducing your chances of having a meltdown like this again. I would recommend spending some money on a therapist who understands autism well and can help you manage the build up to meltdowns to avoid them happening.

If you can do this then tell you manager as this shows initiative and self development on your part and also shows you are making efforts to be reliable for them.

That would be my expectations of the process and my thoughts on what I would do in your situation.

Hi lain.

Thanks for reply. My message below (repky to stuart333) might explain.more on my situation...

I get i have to let them know... I texted the manager on shift (im allowed to message than call), at 8am however my signal is bad so it didn't go through. I emailed Tuesday that I might not be able to come in Thursday depending on overwhelm. I went to sleep from exhaustion after messaging at 8 to even knkw it didn't go through. I acknowledge this is my error and they wont care about my phone signal. 

Its already been extended by 3 months, because my mamager acknowledged my autism and that no.supprt strategies were in place to supprt. and that extension ends now but I have made huge progress since before and his acknowledged its just the "HR rules" which obviously expects everyone to progress at same rate. 

How do you expect me to spend money, on a private therapist I dont have that much money. Im working sessional there.  But im on the waiting list for therapy. 

I guess im.just a failure!