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Black and white, or shades of grey thinking

TheCatWoman

I see many people here talk of black and white thinking and that it's a very ND thing. I rarely think in black and white and nearly always in shades of grey, for me everyhthing is about context and nuance. Often I find black and white thinking like being slapped in the face by a wet fish, it's such a shock, it's also not something I particularly associate with ND but with with mostly male NT's.

It's something I find quite alienating, something that marks me out as different to both other ND's and NT's. It's not that I can't be analytical or decisive, although to some it may seem so, usually when I disagree with them and it's a case of refusing to take their stance, or be bounced into something I'm unsure of. Although I do tend to let things happen organically, the right thing comes at the right time without interfearance from me.

Are you all black and white, or are you grey?

What's your experience of being asked to think in the opposite way?

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  • I prefer to deal with areas which are black and white e.g. the product does/does not meets the required standards or the experimental fusion reactor did/did not achieve nuclear fusion.

    I find it distressing when organisations know they are breaking the law and the official complaints process/Ombudsman is completely corrupt and no-one is interested in fixing it - I don't like it but don't get distressed by other people breaking the rules, it is more when there is a personal impact that it causes me distress.

    When it comes to politics there are gray areas because everyone has their own opinion which is fine, but unfortunately their views are sometimes based on facts that are not true (or to use modern parlance - alternative facts).

    When it is obvious to me that something will go wrong if someone carries on trying to do something incorrectly, if I point it out, most of the time I will be ignored and when they break something or hurt themselves they will become angry at me for trying to help.

  • in reply to Trev
    Trev said:
    I find it distressing when organisations know they are breaking the law and the official complaints process/Ombudsman is completely corrupt and no-one is interested in fixing it

    That sort of thing distresses me too, and I don’t know what the point of having an ombudsman is.

    “Alternative facts” —We don’t need ‘alternative’ and less impactful words to describe lies.

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  • in reply to Trev
    Trev said:
    I find it distressing when organisations know they are breaking the law and the official complaints process/Ombudsman is completely corrupt and no-one is interested in fixing it

    That sort of thing distresses me too, and I don’t know what the point of having an ombudsman is.

    “Alternative facts” —We don’t need ‘alternative’ and less impactful words to describe lies.

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