Black and white, or shades of grey thinking

I prefer to deal with areas which are black and white e.g. the product does/does not meets the required standards or the experimental fusion reactor did/did not achieve nuclear fusion.

I find it distressing when organisations know they are breaking the law and the official complaints process/Ombudsman is completely corrupt and no-one is interested in fixing it - I don't like it but don't get distressed by other people breaking the rules, it is more when there is a personal impact that it causes me distress.

When it comes to politics there are gray areas because everyone has their own opinion which is fine, but unfortunately their views are sometimes based on facts that are not true (or to use modern parlance - alternative facts).

When it is obvious to me that something will go wrong if someone carries on trying to do something incorrectly, if I point it out, most of the time I will be ignored and when they break something or hurt themselves they will become angry at me for trying to help.

I tend to find things more distressing when they're black and white, obviously there are some things that are black and white and are distressing because they're wrong, like child abuse, but on the whole I avoid black and white thinking and question myself extensively when I find myself doing it.

Isn't it an odd thing that so many people like us who live on a spectrum have so many problems seeing the world as a spectrum? I wonder if we'd get along better in the world if this was part of coming to terms with being ND and part of whatever help we get when we're diagnosed?

I know it's very common in only children, but I need to be able to find out for myself that something dosen't work and my solutuon may be very different to anothers, for me there are multiplicities of answers rarely one, which may in part explain my difficulties with things like tech. It's inredibly frustrating to have someone stand there and tell you what you're doing wrong, even if they're right, when it's doubly frustrating. It feels totally disabling and I dont' want to engage with it or them for a while.

I'm not very much of a rule taker, although I do get cross about injustice of the sort mentioned above, but for other things I've never stopped being a "naughty girl", the one that led the school out on strike and told the teachers they had no right to complain as they were frequently on strike themselves. If you want an excuse I'm your woman.

Black and white thinkers often seem to think they can punish me into thinking the same they do, but thats never worked, all it's taught me is to manifest the word thrawn. I find b&w thinking confusing, how can people not see all the possible outcomes and think that there might be some they've not thought of? Doe's thinking in b&w feel safe? Does it give you some kind of security to shut the complexities of the world away? Are you afraid of some kind of internal anarchy? I'm not asking these questions to have a pop at anyone, this is just how it appears to me, who lives my life in the marginal, the numinous. Maybe this is a reaction to being treated as an outsider, for so many years, I embraced the margins as my natural habitat to the extent where I'm at my most comfortable living on an island.

If someone actually knows what they are talking about and offers me advice on how to do something I'm always happy to listen as I like to learn new things, although so far in every case I can remember where someone suggested doing something differently it turned out they didn't know what they are talking about.

If someone actually knows what they are talking about and offers me advice on how to do something I'm always happy to listen as I like to learn new things, although so far in every case I can remember where someone suggested doing something differently it turned out they didn't know what they are talking about.