Black and white, or shades of grey thinking

I see many people here talk of black and white thinking and that it's a very ND thing. I rarely think in black and white and nearly always in shades of grey, for me everyhthing is about context and nuance. Often I find black and white thinking like being slapped in the face by a wet fish, it's such a shock, it's also not something I particularly associate with ND but with with mostly male NT's.

It's something I find quite alienating, something that marks me out as different to both other ND's and NT's. It's not that I can't be analytical or decisive, although to some it may seem so, usually when I disagree with them and it's a case of refusing to take their stance, or be bounced into something I'm unsure of. Although I do tend to let things happen organically, the right thing comes at the right time without interfearance from me.

Are you all black and white, or are you grey?

What's your experience of being asked to think in the opposite way?

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  • Since I found out about the common cognitive distortions 6 months ago or so, which everyone including NT can do and includes black & white thinking, I realise I have tended to do it.

    For me it is more a feature of burnout, stress, or overload. Tiredness also makes it harder.

    When I'm stressed it gets harder to make decisions, the lizard brain is in charge and the prefrontal cortex in the back seat. I can only take a binary position, if I can make a decision at all.

    When calm I am much better, pretty much normal.

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  • Since I found out about the common cognitive distortions 6 months ago or so, which everyone including NT can do and includes black & white thinking, I realise I have tended to do it.

    For me it is more a feature of burnout, stress, or overload. Tiredness also makes it harder.

    When I'm stressed it gets harder to make decisions, the lizard brain is in charge and the prefrontal cortex in the back seat. I can only take a binary position, if I can make a decision at all.

    When calm I am much better, pretty much normal.

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