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Eye contact

Ava

I was told off for not giving eye contact about 16years ago and I give long constant eye mainly now.

i feel because I give constant eye contact that others who are autistic may not and that this means I’m not autistic.

but I am autistic.

im confused about what others think and I mean yourselves who will know if this is unusual?

Do you give constant eye contact?

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  • Ava said:
    I was told off for not giving eye contact about 16years ago and I give long constant eye mainly now

    Growing up, I had a similar experience to you so I learned to make eye contact. My parents often described people who didn’t make eye contact as being shifty/dishonest/not right. 

    I get uncomfortable making eye contact for extended periods of time and would focus slightly below the eyes during prolonged conversation. During brief conversations I sometimes look at the other person’s eyes but would break the contact with sporadic glances elsewhere. I tend not to give much eye contact to people who know I am autistic.

    From knowledge I’ve gleaned through books and this site, some autistic people would struggle to make any eye contact, while others don’t have a problem.

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  • Ava said:
    I was told off for not giving eye contact about 16years ago and I give long constant eye mainly now

    Growing up, I had a similar experience to you so I learned to make eye contact. My parents often described people who didn’t make eye contact as being shifty/dishonest/not right. 

    I get uncomfortable making eye contact for extended periods of time and would focus slightly below the eyes during prolonged conversation. During brief conversations I sometimes look at the other person’s eyes but would break the contact with sporadic glances elsewhere. I tend not to give much eye contact to people who know I am autistic.

    From knowledge I’ve gleaned through books and this site, some autistic people would struggle to make any eye contact, while others don’t have a problem.

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