Leaving my job

Hello

I’m having a similar experience at the moment. Repeated burnouts were what led me to diagnosis though not a lot has changed since I received this a year ago. I’m concerned that I’ll move into yet another role and repeat a similar pattern. I’ve had a number of jobs in the past tens years or so and leave when things get unbearable. 

I’m currently off sick due to burnout and trying things differently. I’m starting coaching next week with a twice exceptional specialist. I also had the opportunity to speak to a career consultant who’s offered me some 1:1 sessions to figure out what I actually want to do and what’s important to me with all my new insights. I’m hoping things improve and keep forgetting to remind myself to manage myself like I would a colleague. (Easier said than done!!)

Good luck with your next chapter. It’s a shame when I read this thread how common this is in the workplace but life is far too short to be persistently unhappy and unsupported.

yes, I left my job about 10 years ago, i was under appreciated and disrespected role after role, people all looked on in the other direction. I now am self employed. Income is sporadic and entirely self motivated. This is how I like it, everything is on my own terms and I am able to pursue my interests. I’d say my annual income is modest but I have a supportive family. I have days when I feel demoralised and low but compared to an autocratic workplace I feel infinitely more alive. Leaving my role was before my diagnosis but was aware of the deliberate obstacles people were creating for me. Pursuing/rediscovering your passion is what you must do and remain as focused as you can.

My lawyer advised me to stay working whilst I have an employment tribunal in process. Constructive dismissal is very hard to prove at a tribunal unless it is very obvious.

It seems that the law (equality act) is not as strong as I believed from my own research with so many ways employers can try to wriggle out of the most egregious actions. The words 'objectively justified' are causing me so much grief and stress. Also the unknown factor with the lack of any certainty causes a lot of stress.

I hope things work out for you what ever you decide to do.

I walked away about 3 months ago, I was so done and filled with built up anxiety that I left that day in fact and didn’t return. I cushioned myself mentally by not acknowledging the huge change it was about to bring although my routine went out the window and I am still searching for that ideal job it was a good decision to make. Mental health and wellbeing can be too badly damaged by a role to return from and unfortunately in this NT world there’s too few people who truly understand the war wounds we can walk around with, Now I am in a position to choose a job more wisely however there are very very few I am comfortable or confident in. 

Definity leave if you can. It will be better for you in the long run. I stuck at a job where I considered I was being bullied for far to long before leaving. I've been diagnosed since and my struggles make so much more sense now. I did raise mental health issues with my employer without really knowing what was underlying that (autism and not recognising maniplation and bullying because of that) but nothing was done. 

It's not an easy thing to do from a stress point of view but if you can gather evidence of your requests for reasonable adjustments and their dismissal it might be worth contacting an employment lawyer before returning to work or giving notice. If you have grounds for unfair dismissal its best to resign without notice, never go back and then start the employment tribunal process

Hello illustrated.lady 

I’m so sorry to hear about your situation at the moment and I’m so sorry your requests got rejected, I can imagine that would not have helped in anyway. I think you are doing the right thing in leaving the job though as you need to look after yourself but please don’t feel bad for quitting, it’s better than staying in a job and suffer. If you want maybe you could just have a little break from jobs or maybe just look for a part time or contract job maybe. If you are happy to find a full time job then by all means go for it but just look after yourself and don’t do anything you feel pressured to do. Your partner sounds very nice and caring and I hope they can support you and your decisions no matter what.

I had to quit my job due to sexual harassment which is still haunting me to this day. I’ve actually been advised by the job centre to not work as even they have recognised that I am in an even worse state than when I first applied for UC back in 2019. I suppose I’m lucky that I have enough to pay my bills and save a little each month but bear in mind I don’t drive so I haven’t got any car taxes or fuel bills etc. but I can only just save a little each month. 

I wish you the best, take care

I had a difficult situation with a job. I had worked there for a long time. I was diagnosed during my time there and I disclosed this when I started really struggling. Whilst some people were supportive, my main boss was not and dismissed my needs "because I'd always coped before". 

It took me a long time to make the decision but I did decide to change jobs. I wasn't in a position to just quit so I had to get the other job first. But this job is better at reasonable adjustments. Definitely not perfect, but more understanding.

If you're in a position where you're able to just resign then I would do it. It is not worth affecting your well being for. You can then give yourself some time to find what suits you best without pressure. Good luck.