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Repeated burnouts.

Catherine

Hello

i sought and received diagnosis last year aged 42 thanks to repeated burnouts at work. I work in an industry (health) where I can move around in roles and departments so this largely went under the radar. I achieved a lot academically in the past decade in addition to working full time; externally I looked as though I was thriving. Well liked, well respected, promoted, I have a very gifted IQ and am an expert in masking.

After diagnosis I moved into a different role earlier this year in an attempt to pivot away from clinical work and into a more strategic position to try to avoid repeated patterns. it’s been a manic ten months with no training, changes to managements and teams, and now we’ve entered consultation for restructure. I’ve reached burnout again and am off work with significant executive dysfunction.

Does anyone have similar experience and has managed to break the cycle of high masking and burnout? My reasonable adjustments haven’t been met but I’m finding it really difficult to advocate for myself to a point where I get the support I need. This is the consequence and I feel so sad that this has happened again despite my efforts. I’ve read all the advice and guidance but struggling to put theory into practice.

Any suggestions or comments welcome.

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  • Er…hello, I feel a little timid about writing. This is my first ever “outing”. I am not formally diagnosed but I show all of the characteristics of high functioning autism except my skill is being highly perceptive, empathetic  and being able to “smell out” people’s insecurities that they try to keep hidden. I used to think everyone could see the same thing, that it was obvious except that when I mentioned what I could see in passing, people would say I was being rude. So I spend a lot of time trying to pretend I can’t see and trying to shut out the noise of it all and I am sooooo tired of pretending. I feel drained.

    Catherine your message spoke to me. I have experienced repeated burnout. I thought it was just because my job was thankless (everyone is tired) but a couple of years ago I came back from a five star retreat (a birthdate gift to myself) and ran slap bang into burnout. Something was clearly wrong. I have a self care plan that I out in place: yoga, the arts, little walks and breaks but I am just tired and tearful all the time. My friends don’t get it. I wish they offered me the support I offer them when they are in need. They don’t so I just end up feeling like I’m running on empty with no support. 

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  • Er…hello, I feel a little timid about writing. This is my first ever “outing”. I am not formally diagnosed but I show all of the characteristics of high functioning autism except my skill is being highly perceptive, empathetic  and being able to “smell out” people’s insecurities that they try to keep hidden. I used to think everyone could see the same thing, that it was obvious except that when I mentioned what I could see in passing, people would say I was being rude. So I spend a lot of time trying to pretend I can’t see and trying to shut out the noise of it all and I am sooooo tired of pretending. I feel drained.

    Catherine your message spoke to me. I have experienced repeated burnout. I thought it was just because my job was thankless (everyone is tired) but a couple of years ago I came back from a five star retreat (a birthdate gift to myself) and ran slap bang into burnout. Something was clearly wrong. I have a self care plan that I out in place: yoga, the arts, little walks and breaks but I am just tired and tearful all the time. My friends don’t get it. I wish they offered me the support I offer them when they are in need. They don’t so I just end up feeling like I’m running on empty with no support. 

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