Need genuine support and guidance.

So I'm 23 and with zero experience, friends, transport, and honestly no idea what I'm currently living for. 

I do have a paying job, not much but survivable. I don't like to compare my lifestyle to relatives but I am living aimlessly. 

I want to be a film actor. Correction: NEED to be a film actor. At least I know where my heart should be. But tools, confidence, experience and community is so scarce this doesn't seem achievable. I am mentally lost. I also need to move out because where I am is so toxic, in essence surrounded by narcissists. My daily structure is: go to work, come home, and just sit at my PC doing nothing productive. On a day off, it's even worse, mental torture because I don't know what to do or where to go. 

The only liberty I have is the gym. But coupled with poor eating structure and financial difficulty, this also hurts. Even more so I have nobody, nor professional or guidance. 

Please leave a message or reference to help me out, someone who can actually guide me. I've only just discovered this page since this has occurred for the last 3 years.

I have so much to give and I feel like I'm really wasting time, but I don't know the how or where, and the confidence to even try. 

Please help.

Phillip 

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  • I'm 23 and with zero experience, friends, transpor

    Experience you can gain if you put yourself out there, get into amateur acting situations etc and build a portfolio. Without experience your further ambitions will be incredibly limited so this is where I would start.

    Search for amateur dramatic / acting groups in your area and ask to join.

    You may want to work on your mobility if you do want to get into acting later on as these are often all over the place and not in easy public transport access. Would a moped / motorbike be within your means longer term even?

    The only liberty I have is the gym. But coupled with poor eating structure and financial difficulty, this also hurts. Even more so I have nobody, nor professional or guidance. 

    Think about how you can improve this. Eating better is remarkably straightforward even on a budget if you buy fruit/veg from markets and cook yourself. YouTube has plenty to show you how to prepare the food and nutritional information is fairly readily available on the internet so you should be able to improve your diet easily and affordably.

    I want to be a film actor. Correction: NEED to be a film actor.

    A reality check is important here - it helps to realise that only around 2% of performers every get to make al iving from it (source: https://www.backstage.com/magazine/article/what-percentage-of-actors-make-it-76897/ )

    You have the added overhead of your autistic traits which can make it harder to endure but can also make you better at acting. The one thing I would make a special interest is to study human behaviour so you can understand it much better when you are playing the roles you will get. 

    If you can treat it as a hobby rather than a career then you are much more likely to not get stressed by I I think. With such low odds of success then placing your livelihood on the line is a bad idea, but if you enjoy the process without having to give up your job then it can be fun instead.

    There are plenty of people out there who will charge to be an acting coach but I suspect few will be successful. Once you join some local groups then you will get more contacts, people who may be willing to help and a lot of experience to learn from.

    I have a TV actress as a good friend and she tells stories of the most obnoxious people in the acting world, with narcassism a common trait so I would bare this in mind when considering if it will be less toxic than where you are now. I think it is just as bad but different.

    These are just a few thoughs for you on this subject - hopefully something will be of help.

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  • I'm 23 and with zero experience, friends, transpor

    Experience you can gain if you put yourself out there, get into amateur acting situations etc and build a portfolio. Without experience your further ambitions will be incredibly limited so this is where I would start.

    Search for amateur dramatic / acting groups in your area and ask to join.

    You may want to work on your mobility if you do want to get into acting later on as these are often all over the place and not in easy public transport access. Would a moped / motorbike be within your means longer term even?

    The only liberty I have is the gym. But coupled with poor eating structure and financial difficulty, this also hurts. Even more so I have nobody, nor professional or guidance. 

    Think about how you can improve this. Eating better is remarkably straightforward even on a budget if you buy fruit/veg from markets and cook yourself. YouTube has plenty to show you how to prepare the food and nutritional information is fairly readily available on the internet so you should be able to improve your diet easily and affordably.

    I want to be a film actor. Correction: NEED to be a film actor.

    A reality check is important here - it helps to realise that only around 2% of performers every get to make al iving from it (source: https://www.backstage.com/magazine/article/what-percentage-of-actors-make-it-76897/ )

    You have the added overhead of your autistic traits which can make it harder to endure but can also make you better at acting. The one thing I would make a special interest is to study human behaviour so you can understand it much better when you are playing the roles you will get. 

    If you can treat it as a hobby rather than a career then you are much more likely to not get stressed by I I think. With such low odds of success then placing your livelihood on the line is a bad idea, but if you enjoy the process without having to give up your job then it can be fun instead.

    There are plenty of people out there who will charge to be an acting coach but I suspect few will be successful. Once you join some local groups then you will get more contacts, people who may be willing to help and a lot of experience to learn from.

    I have a TV actress as a good friend and she tells stories of the most obnoxious people in the acting world, with narcassism a common trait so I would bare this in mind when considering if it will be less toxic than where you are now. I think it is just as bad but different.

    These are just a few thoughs for you on this subject - hopefully something will be of help.

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