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TK_421.

Hello, I am 47 years old and in one of my almost 2 yearly burnouts. I’ve had a good two years and despite all the progress made I still have crashed. Thought I would try something different to help myself this time around, try to connect with other Autistic people. I have never done this before and that thought led me here.

Does anyone else have these cycles of coping/masking to get along then end up burnt out. I think I need to stop trying to fit in and be me. I could probably go on for ages but wanted to try and keep it short for my first post.

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  • Has happened to me 3 times in last 30 years, with a couple of significant depressive episodes too. At my worst it becomes hard to speak.

    I managed so long (surviving not thriving) by living alone and just working, eating and sleeping, and using alcohol, mostly in moderation, till last Christmas. Then this year is a work in progress, I found out the issues, got diagnosed and am trying to come to terms with everything, plus sort out decades of stuff I have just put off. My head is a bit straighter now, but I am not there yet.

    It's very strange how I can be very good at some things and just ignore others that are important.

    You have my sympathies.

    The distorted thinking, executive function issues and emotional problems are not fun. Indeed it is life threatening.

    Knowing that others also struggle can be quite comforting, although it doesn't fix anything. I am not sure what the best fix is. Definitely reducing pressure, particularly self generated pressure, helps. Not feeling guilty about doing nothing.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    I believe what you said is true, that knowing that others are also struggling is comforting, in that you know you are not alone. I was diagnosed as autistic back in 2016. I had already been diagnosed with clinical depression, generalised anxiety disorder and had been referred to several community mental health teams through the years. This was also for help with suicidal thoughts which I have had since I was a child. Getting the autism diagnosis helped as it put the other issues in to place as kind of side effects of living in a world not in tune with us, if that makes sense?

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  • in reply to Stuart333

    I believe what you said is true, that knowing that others are also struggling is comforting, in that you know you are not alone. I was diagnosed as autistic back in 2016. I had already been diagnosed with clinical depression, generalised anxiety disorder and had been referred to several community mental health teams through the years. This was also for help with suicidal thoughts which I have had since I was a child. Getting the autism diagnosis helped as it put the other issues in to place as kind of side effects of living in a world not in tune with us, if that makes sense?

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