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I need instructions what to do

Mamabear52

Does anyone else feel they need someone to give them instructions on what to do in life, I have no idea what I’m supposed to do in social situations or if someone needs help, I also find making decisions difficult.  I’ve never lived alone as I went from living at home where my Mum made all the decisions, to getting married where I’m quite happy for my Husband to look after things.  I have no idea how I’d cope on my own and it scares me.  I still feel childlike in many ways, wanting to be looked after and taught what to do.  At the grand old age of 73 I’ve only just been diagnosed which has come as a big relief to explain why I’ve always felt different.

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  • I can see that Iain has provided you with some good suggestions  , so I will try not to overwhelm you by adding too many of my own.

    When my dad was alive, I think he had assumed that when he died the wider family would all rally round and pitch in to help my mother with some of the things that he had always dealt with, such as household finances. My advice to you is not to assume that help will be forthcoming because the reality is that it might not be. As my mother found, it's a role that not everybody is able or willing to take on.

    If your husband is able to invest time in equipping you with the knowledge and skills you will need for life on your own, it will be no bad thing. If you have children and/or other close relatives, involve them in discussions about YOUR future. If you can establish a network of people who are willing and able to support you in the future, it will make it easier for you to know who to turn to for help when the time comes.

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  • I can see that Iain has provided you with some good suggestions  , so I will try not to overwhelm you by adding too many of my own.

    When my dad was alive, I think he had assumed that when he died the wider family would all rally round and pitch in to help my mother with some of the things that he had always dealt with, such as household finances. My advice to you is not to assume that help will be forthcoming because the reality is that it might not be. As my mother found, it's a role that not everybody is able or willing to take on.

    If your husband is able to invest time in equipping you with the knowledge and skills you will need for life on your own, it will be no bad thing. If you have children and/or other close relatives, involve them in discussions about YOUR future. If you can establish a network of people who are willing and able to support you in the future, it will make it easier for you to know who to turn to for help when the time comes.

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