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Do all autistic adults have either OCD or ADHD?

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It seems that a lot of autistic adults have OCD or ADHD - the OCD ones like everything to be clean and tidy, and the ADHD ones seem to have difficulty in organising stuff.

Do you have either of these? If so, how do they affect your day to day functioning?

I have OCD and I love a clean and tidy environment, and although I find bathing or showering a bit boring I feel better for doing it. I am highly organised with money, budget setting, paying bills, etc, and like recording things in a spreadsheet or making lists. I also do meal planning each week before doing my online shopping order. I cannot stand lateness either, but I'm not sure if that's an OCD thing?

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  • No I have neither.

    I hate lateness too, I was brought up to be on time and taught that it was rude to be late. 

    Nor do I think being organised is OCD or ADHD, being organised gives you the time to do everything else you want or need to do. I don't know why being organised is being made into a pathology, OK if you have to check every door is locked 3 times before you can leave the house or go to bed and behaviour becomes sort of ritualised then theres a problem.

    I think sponteneity can be over rated, it's good to do things on the spur of the momment and seize an opportunity that comes your way, but that dosen't mean that when you get home from your spontaneous adventure you should embrace chaos. I've also noticed that being spontanious can be a bit of a power trip for some, my ex would always want to go somewhere on the spur of the moment when I had to work and complain that I wasn't spontanious, he'd also complain that I wasn't earning enough! I've noticed others often rely on one person being organised so as they can do their thing and yet they'd have a fit if there were no clean clothes, or food in the cupboard and the house was a mess. I've on occaision asked if they think we have housework fairies and that all this stuff just does itself? There's never a proper answer, because that would mean they have to value anothers contribution to the smooth running of life. 

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  • No I have neither.

    I hate lateness too, I was brought up to be on time and taught that it was rude to be late. 

    Nor do I think being organised is OCD or ADHD, being organised gives you the time to do everything else you want or need to do. I don't know why being organised is being made into a pathology, OK if you have to check every door is locked 3 times before you can leave the house or go to bed and behaviour becomes sort of ritualised then theres a problem.

    I think sponteneity can be over rated, it's good to do things on the spur of the momment and seize an opportunity that comes your way, but that dosen't mean that when you get home from your spontaneous adventure you should embrace chaos. I've also noticed that being spontanious can be a bit of a power trip for some, my ex would always want to go somewhere on the spur of the moment when I had to work and complain that I wasn't spontanious, he'd also complain that I wasn't earning enough! I've noticed others often rely on one person being organised so as they can do their thing and yet they'd have a fit if there were no clean clothes, or food in the cupboard and the house was a mess. I've on occaision asked if they think we have housework fairies and that all this stuff just does itself? There's never a proper answer, because that would mean they have to value anothers contribution to the smooth running of life. 

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    On the door locking thing I’d say that CAN be OCD but it’s most likely ADHD i described my ADHD before I one it was ADHD as feelijg like I had dementia as I forget so much and it hurts my brain now that I know I have ADHD I know what I can dintk help my self 

    also knowing I have ADHD i no longer have impulsive shopping habits becuase I have learned to think about ANY purchase even if that means walking away from the shop and if my brain forgets abour the item then I didn’t want or need it 

    and I also online look at my wish lists or baskets and think what else that money could do for me and if it’s an item I could come back to at a later date even though indi really want it 

    today alone ive saved my self 100s of pounds that I would of spent over a 6 to 13 month period of stuff I could ask for as a gift or I could get t when it’s cheaper etc 

    I try and plan my hobbies purchases no more than a week ahead of buying jt this way im on a tighter budget and end up only buying what will bring joy