Autism without stereo types?

NAS76953 said:

Do i have asd im getting second test and failed the first test.

It is quite possible to be on the autistic spectrum but not reach the level for a diagnosis.

This is because the diagnosis is literally a label that your autistic traits are disabling you, so if you do not reach the threshold then you are considered to be non-disabled.

You can be 99% of the limit, still have lots of autistic traits but not be at the level of a diagnosis. It doesn't mean you are not autistic, just not a disabled one.

It helps not to worry about this but rather to focus on the fact you have identified that the same neurodiverse mechanisms are causing you issues which you can now research and be able to manage better.

NAS76953 said:

my real question is if im not stereo type asd can I still gave asd

Yes you can still be autistic.

It helps to know that the "spectrum" of autism means that those who are autistic have a range of different traits, all at different intensities so there is no accurate stereotype. We are all quite different and we are capable of learning coping mechanisms for our traits that means we can "mask" to appear normal, but at a cost to us mentally.

Which of your autistic traits are causing you issues? This may be a good place to start as we can point you in the direction of resources that can inform you and give tips for reducing their impact on life.

Think my autism is the reason for my agoraphobia anxiety disorder and panic disorder being do debilitating im housebound for 10 years o can go out for little walk with my dog but that's it. I barely shower, cook for myself, clean i struggle with normal daily tasks granted I cam do them but I struggle 

NAS76953 said:

I barely shower, cook for myself, clean i struggle with normal daily tasks granted I cam do them but I struggle 

This is a common issue for autists related to executive function. There is a brief article on it here:

https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/physical-health/keeping-healthy

There are plenty more articles online about it so searching online for "autism executive function" should give a lot to consider.

You will need to find an approach that works for you, but you have to want to make a change for it to work.

NAS76953 said:

Think my autism is the reason for my agoraphobia anxiety disorder and panic disorder being do debilitating im housebound for 10 years o can go out for little walk with my dog but that's it.

Phobias are very hard to deal with without professional help, and that help needs to understand autism well to be able to create a plan to help you as conventional approaches are often ineffective because of other autistic traits.

In your position I would consider calling your GP and ask for their advice. The lack of an autism diagnosis may make this more difficult but explain your test scores on the autism test, that you need help and see if they can offer a referral to someone.

If the GP won't do this then going privately is the only option I expect, and that costs at least £50/hour and it will most likely need many hours to get to understand you, create a plan to help and work through the steps.

Healthcare in this country is quite limited when it comes to mental health I'm afraid.

One thing that I think will help the most in the short term is to accept that you are on the autistic spectrum, that it is a part of you since birth and that it is part of who you are. Find the good in yourself, embrace the bits you don't like too - accept them and if you need to work on them then educate yourself and get professional help to improve them.

Keep a journal as well as sometimes it helps to look back later on and see how far you have come. It helps build confidence that you are capable of improvement and taking back control. There will be ups and downs just like everyone else in the world, but you are the one who got you through the darkness and made the difference. 

Of course I'm just some random off the internet and you should do your own research before even considering any of this 

NAS76953 said:

I barely shower, cook for myself, clean i struggle with normal daily tasks granted I cam do them but I struggle 

This is a common issue for autists related to executive function. There is a brief article on it here:

https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/physical-health/keeping-healthy

There are plenty more articles online about it so searching online for "autism executive function" should give a lot to consider.

You will need to find an approach that works for you, but you have to want to make a change for it to work.

NAS76953 said:

Think my autism is the reason for my agoraphobia anxiety disorder and panic disorder being do debilitating im housebound for 10 years o can go out for little walk with my dog but that's it.

Phobias are very hard to deal with without professional help, and that help needs to understand autism well to be able to create a plan to help you as conventional approaches are often ineffective because of other autistic traits.

In your position I would consider calling your GP and ask for their advice. The lack of an autism diagnosis may make this more difficult but explain your test scores on the autism test, that you need help and see if they can offer a referral to someone.

If the GP won't do this then going privately is the only option I expect, and that costs at least £50/hour and it will most likely need many hours to get to understand you, create a plan to help and work through the steps.

Healthcare in this country is quite limited when it comes to mental health I'm afraid.

One thing that I think will help the most in the short term is to accept that you are on the autistic spectrum, that it is a part of you since birth and that it is part of who you are. Find the good in yourself, embrace the bits you don't like too - accept them and if you need to work on them then educate yourself and get professional help to improve them.

Keep a journal as well as sometimes it helps to look back later on and see how far you have come. It helps build confidence that you are capable of improvement and taking back control. There will be ups and downs just like everyone else in the world, but you are the one who got you through the darkness and made the difference. 

Of course I'm just some random off the internet and you should do your own research before even considering any of this 

Thank you very much for the advice much appreciated.