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Communication issues

Expecto_Patronum

I'm finding myself having a lot of difficulty with communication at the moment. Obviously this is a part of being autistic and not uncommon. But I just seem to be having greater difficulty at the moment.

Things I'm saying are just being misinterpreted or come out not as I intended and I think people are actually getting offended. It is never my intention to offend anyone and I really try to think through what I'm saying but no matter how much thought I put in, it doesn't seem to be well received at times. Often I intend it to be funny but it just doesn't come out that way. I guess I could just stop trying to be funny but that's easier said than done. Humour is often a coping mechanism.

I don't know why this seems to be a greater difficulty at the moment. It's starting to really get to me. It just feels like other people seem to communicate with each other so easily and I always feel like on the outside. Trying so hard but failing so often. There always seems to be a big distance between me and other people. It really feels like I speak a different language sometimes. 

Finding it really hard not to beat myself up and hate my autism at the moment.

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  • That not nice when that happens. Sorry for you  

    Is it an isolated thing or is it in pattern with something else I wonder?

    Humour has been a go to for me as social communication.  A quick wit and some practiced spiels can help get by in my experience as it can be as useful social skill.

    Sometimes when I'm feeling "off" then my humour gets less than kind and I have had to really learn to rein it in under these circumstances as there is teasing and there is something a bit less healthy.

    I can also if a bit "out there" end up getting so surreal that only people who are up to that can get a bit phased by it.

    When my energies are a bit low or I'm distracted the sense and suitability of comic timing can go - and that's just not funny!

    Being realistic and being hard on yourself can sometimes be poles apart and they say don't kick someone when they are down.  But you know that anyway I figure.

    Anyway sometimes the harder one tries the worse things get and it might be time for a recharge if possible before going again?

    I hope you're feeling better soon!

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    It's been an issue before so it's not isolated but it's not usually such a persistent problem. 

    Things that are just meant to be a light hearted comment are coming out as more blunt comments that people are seeing as harsh but they're not meant to be. It's hard to not do because in my head there's nothing wrong with what I'm about to say.

    I'm definitely tired at the moment. There seems to have been a lot of little issues recently that are all building up and making things hard to manage.

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  • in reply to Phased

    It's been an issue before so it's not isolated but it's not usually such a persistent problem. 

    Things that are just meant to be a light hearted comment are coming out as more blunt comments that people are seeing as harsh but they're not meant to be. It's hard to not do because in my head there's nothing wrong with what I'm about to say.

    I'm definitely tired at the moment. There seems to have been a lot of little issues recently that are all building up and making things hard to manage.

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