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AnnieBo

Soooo...recently diagnosed...really pleased...validation..lots has clicked into place...relief etc etc...I'm wondering if I've had my head so deeply embedded in the autism world I forgot that some people aren't quite on the same wavelength.

me to friend: I've got some big news! I've just been diagnosed with autism

friend: **silence..mouth open..little bit of a "poor you" face** ...something happens in the room which diverts the conversation {hmmm, convenient}.

friend days later actually picks up conversation rather cautiously and finally says all the right things {"you're stil you..etc etc"}

other friend: still not addressed it but sends me links to random things they know i like {I'll just wait here and make it awkward}

This is so NOT how I expected it to go. I'm having a pause on the disclosures while I have a think! Anyone got a story to share?

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  • There is a story in aviation that there are old pilots and there are brave pilots but there are no old brave pilots.

    I still can't resist telling people I'm autistic as for me it was a really great thing to learn.  I meet a substantial number of both pleasant and indifferent/unpleasant people - thing is I reckon these unpleasant people maybe need a bit of time and work to come around and may have even been like that before I told them so what's changed?

    Now I have a protected characteristic potentially I am less vulnerable - at least in theory that is...

    Thing is having to be one's own best advocate can come with the territory.  As far as my experience goes this takes knowledge, skill, energy, staying power, support when necessary and most of all time to acquire.  These lovely resources are hard to shepherd and hard to resource too perhaps.

    Congratulations on getting your metaphorical wings :-) I wish you smooth flying. safe landings and a long and happy flying career  !

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  • There is a story in aviation that there are old pilots and there are brave pilots but there are no old brave pilots.

    I still can't resist telling people I'm autistic as for me it was a really great thing to learn.  I meet a substantial number of both pleasant and indifferent/unpleasant people - thing is I reckon these unpleasant people maybe need a bit of time and work to come around and may have even been like that before I told them so what's changed?

    Now I have a protected characteristic potentially I am less vulnerable - at least in theory that is...

    Thing is having to be one's own best advocate can come with the territory.  As far as my experience goes this takes knowledge, skill, energy, staying power, support when necessary and most of all time to acquire.  These lovely resources are hard to shepherd and hard to resource too perhaps.

    Congratulations on getting your metaphorical wings :-) I wish you smooth flying. safe landings and a long and happy flying career  !

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