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AnnieBo

Soooo...recently diagnosed...really pleased...validation..lots has clicked into place...relief etc etc...I'm wondering if I've had my head so deeply embedded in the autism world I forgot that some people aren't quite on the same wavelength.

me to friend: I've got some big news! I've just been diagnosed with autism

friend: **silence..mouth open..little bit of a "poor you" face** ...something happens in the room which diverts the conversation {hmmm, convenient}.

friend days later actually picks up conversation rather cautiously and finally says all the right things {"you're stil you..etc etc"}

other friend: still not addressed it but sends me links to random things they know i like {I'll just wait here and make it awkward}

This is so NOT how I expected it to go. I'm having a pause on the disclosures while I have a think! Anyone got a story to share?

Parents

  • I've had a mixture:

    1. So what, nothing has changed.
    2. Not a surprise. So what are you going to do.
    3. I thought you knew.
    4. Ok (most common), then onto the next thing
    5. But there's nothing wrong with you.
    6. Worst one, ignored my email after years of contact.
    7. GP: we need a copy of the report (which they've filed and ignored)

    In general it is mostly mild interest or indifference.

    People don't know what to say. And to be fair what do you want them to say? To most you still, look, sound and behave the same. The label does not change anything for them.

    Maybe I have largely avoided the negativity because quite a few have children that are, or know people. Perhaps it's the industry I work in.

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  • I've had a mixture:

    1. So what, nothing has changed.
    2. Not a surprise. So what are you going to do.
    3. I thought you knew.
    4. Ok (most common), then onto the next thing
    5. But there's nothing wrong with you.
    6. Worst one, ignored my email after years of contact.
    7. GP: we need a copy of the report (which they've filed and ignored)

    In general it is mostly mild interest or indifference.

    People don't know what to say. And to be fair what do you want them to say? To most you still, look, sound and behave the same. The label does not change anything for them.

    Maybe I have largely avoided the negativity because quite a few have children that are, or know people. Perhaps it's the industry I work in.

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