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Disclosure stories

AnnieBo

Soooo...recently diagnosed...really pleased...validation..lots has clicked into place...relief etc etc...I'm wondering if I've had my head so deeply embedded in the autism world I forgot that some people aren't quite on the same wavelength.

me to friend: I've got some big news! I've just been diagnosed with autism

friend: **silence..mouth open..little bit of a "poor you" face** ...something happens in the room which diverts the conversation {hmmm, convenient}.

friend days later actually picks up conversation rather cautiously and finally says all the right things {"you're stil you..etc etc"}

other friend: still not addressed it but sends me links to random things they know i like {I'll just wait here and make it awkward}

This is so NOT how I expected it to go. I'm having a pause on the disclosures while I have a think! Anyone got a story to share?

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  • AnnieBo said:
    I'm having a pause on the disclosures while I have a think! Anyone got a story to share?

    Long story short, my wife couldn't accept that I was "mentally ill" (her term) and even after therapy she could not accept me even after 24 years of being happily married.

    Work sidelined me from a lot of high profile customer support meetings (I used to be there for when chairmen of lots of organisations attended our offices for strategy or emergency meetings - our company was their controlling entity) as they didn't someone with a mental health condition endangering the reputation of the company.

    I was also moved to a consultant role (better pay), moved much more behind the scenes then the contract mysteriously was cancelled a year later.

    Statt didn't know what autism was in any meaningful way when I told some of them and preferred to avoid me when before I had been just another one of the team.

    My family don't want to know, especially as I pointed out it is genetic and I can clearly identify autistic traits in them.

    Overall, disclosure was a big negative for me.

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  • AnnieBo said:
    I'm having a pause on the disclosures while I have a think! Anyone got a story to share?

    Long story short, my wife couldn't accept that I was "mentally ill" (her term) and even after therapy she could not accept me even after 24 years of being happily married.

    Work sidelined me from a lot of high profile customer support meetings (I used to be there for when chairmen of lots of organisations attended our offices for strategy or emergency meetings - our company was their controlling entity) as they didn't someone with a mental health condition endangering the reputation of the company.

    I was also moved to a consultant role (better pay), moved much more behind the scenes then the contract mysteriously was cancelled a year later.

    Statt didn't know what autism was in any meaningful way when I told some of them and preferred to avoid me when before I had been just another one of the team.

    My family don't want to know, especially as I pointed out it is genetic and I can clearly identify autistic traits in them.

    Overall, disclosure was a big negative for me.

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