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delayed emotional processing

Phased

A few days research took me to concepts of delayed emotional processing in autistic people.

Then 2 days ago I experienced something that I felt in the middle of my chest as threatening.

Last night I had a mental response which I think of as being fear.

So maybe this is delayed emotional processing in action?

Coming of of this a couple of further thoughts....

With this sort of separation between "cause" and "effect" it really makes it difficult to get a hang of life "in real time" ('cos all sorts of other things are experienced in between).

Also have I created this consciousness because I've been primed to by the learning new concept?

Or has the new concept revealed something I was previously unaware of?

Oh gosh rabbit hole of butterfly dreams!! :-)

Guess experience will tell.

Thoughts and similar anyone please?

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  • I've realised I say what I think, rather than what I feel. AI picked that up. I think it is part of looking for patterns and a general preference for explaining why I think something. It might also be due to intellectualising things, which is a defensive response.

    As a silly example, rather than say "I feel sad (or depressed) because I've lost my job", I'd say "I've lost my job and it is a causing me some issues". The second one feels cold (apparently) and requires further questions to understand.

    This approach means that I am isolated from the feelings while talking, giving flat affect and hence limited facial expressions. I may then feel it later in private when I think about how I feel.

    I think I may feel something at the time inside, like a knot in the chest, but not always. However since that used to always be there is just learnt to ignore it, which leads to overload and burnout eventually. I now am trying to pay attention to the physiological signs as they mean something.

    As an example, I realised I was getting anticipatory anxiety about an eye jab, and noticed my shoulders had raised. I lowered them and it helped immediately.

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  • I've realised I say what I think, rather than what I feel. AI picked that up. I think it is part of looking for patterns and a general preference for explaining why I think something. It might also be due to intellectualising things, which is a defensive response.

    As a silly example, rather than say "I feel sad (or depressed) because I've lost my job", I'd say "I've lost my job and it is a causing me some issues". The second one feels cold (apparently) and requires further questions to understand.

    This approach means that I am isolated from the feelings while talking, giving flat affect and hence limited facial expressions. I may then feel it later in private when I think about how I feel.

    I think I may feel something at the time inside, like a knot in the chest, but not always. However since that used to always be there is just learnt to ignore it, which leads to overload and burnout eventually. I now am trying to pay attention to the physiological signs as they mean something.

    As an example, I realised I was getting anticipatory anxiety about an eye jab, and noticed my shoulders had raised. I lowered them and it helped immediately.

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  • in reply to Stuart333

    So maybe I could/should have started by acknowledging "I am happy that you replied"    :-)

  • in reply to Stuart333

    I believe that using the body as a way of acknowledging how one feels is a really good way of perhaps "working around" difficulty in cognitive awareness of ones emotional state.

    That sense of "I am used to it and live with it" is something I am experienced with too!

    Regretfully this can be the metaphorical equivalent of not clearing the leaves from a house gutters until they eventually overflow and cause damage to the walls.

    Maybe akin to delaying processing of emotion?

    Stuart333 said:
    As an example, I realised I was getting anticipatory anxiety about an eye jab, and noticed my shoulders had raised. I lowered them and it helped immediately.

    is an example of emotional processing "in the moment" as it were.

    The order and importance of thought before feelings is a really interesting insight shared - thanks :-)