This is so confusing to me(dating)

I can completely understand that. Small areas can be very gossipy. I used to live in a gossipy village and everyone knew I got bullied there and a lot of bullies lived in the same village and they’d throw stone at junk at the house but we ended up leaving without a trace so they can’t bully me now. Also my mum has a friend who lives in a small city and though it’s bigger than the village, everyone is just as gossipy and if you have something wrong, then you’re done for. The friend has 3 adhd kids and one of them because a parent in their teens so yeah they are all getting a hard time. My mum also said that back in the earlier days people would go out to bars or form relationships at work etc but now it’s all done on apps or relationships before age 13. I think I’d prefer to be in my mums era

190E(Taylor’s version) said:

it’s disheartening a bit though when you’ve liked 100 people had 2 muteral marches one who just doesn’t bother replying to you and one who’s not your type

An interesting stat about the difference between men and womens selection of partners on dating platforms is here:

https://datingzest.com/tinder-statistics/

Men swipe right on 46% of profiles, whereas women swipe right on just 8–14%.

It highlights that women are about 4 times more selective than men in chosing the profiles that interest them.

It does show who holds the power in this scenario.

Yeah im being super careful liek I say there’s local people who I like but I mean it’s a small village one “wrong” move and suddenly you have a bad reputation so yeha it’s a hard thing ti know what to do 

plus even though I have family as in my family thst I made here it might be easier jot to stay local any more 

Ahh ok well I understand much better now and I’m sorry that your amazing relationship turned into an on and off relationship but I suppose that’s the sign to call it quits. I do feel upset that most people think autistic meltdowns are just tantrums, I suffer with meltdowns too much and I know it’s not a tantrum but it’s hard to explain that to people who don’t/refuse to understand. Us NDs are no doubt more sensitive and if something can upset it can just trigger a meltdown regardless of the size of the issues if that makes sense. That’s my personal view at least. I’m having to cut ties with my dad because I can’t cope with his abuse anymore and him refusing to understand despite my best efforts to explain but then I get told I’m too thick to explain things. 

I hope all goes well if you go on these dating apps/sites but of course be careful. 

I think it’s more of a thing of she refuses to see my needs for what they are i get told a meltodwn is tempter or kicking iff like I can controll it I get told to not stress when I’m uncontrollably castrofising snd if I get mad becuase she’s answering a question I didn’t ask and say please answer the question I asked she will say I was but I had to tell you this and im like Jo that can wait please and it’s just too much to do anymore plus like I say in that two months I’ve tried but it’s hurt too much I deserve to find someone who makes me feel like I did with her before which was really damn happy 

these days ive only been briefly happy when we patch things up then it’s just indifference again

yrah I have those worries too plus I now feel feelings of unsurebwss like the cute(and if I’m being honest sexy if that’s an on word to use or is it considered offensive ther days that stuff scares me too) audhd girl i had my reasons for swiping no but I’ll Probably always wonder what if I had of went yes(like tbh I saw her come up snd I’d never obviously thought about her appearance much before as I was in a relationship I thought I could make work) and my heart did kind of go oh wow 

but I did have some good reasons to say no like things that could make it complicated in the short run let alone thr long run 

mom still living at “home” right now but it’s a logistical nightmare i.e trying to secure as many hours at work so I can even afford to rent without being left pennyless 

Disclaimer: Im single and never been involved in romance or dates etc but I just feel like I want to reply.

Sorry if I am coming across as rude or nosy here but I just want to get this correct? Have you split up with your other half for good? From what I’ve gathered over your previous posts, I’m getting the impression that she is trying to use you and take advantage of you and your issues and if this is the case you are much better off away from her. If I have got this completely wrong then please do forgive me. It just really upsets and angers me when people use their others for their own selfish needs and benefits and once they have everything they dump the other half and then talk them back into relationships for well lust. 

I’ve actually looked into dating apps and sites myself but I can never really get far as I need to create an account and I don’t want to do that in case I get either no one or I get people I don’t like. Also worried if it attracts stalkers or creeps etc.