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Venting on how working is hard

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I have found the last 10 years quite tough. If I had to point just to one thing, I most commonly felt -and feel- alienated (or estranged).

There is like an oscillation: trying, failing, trying, failing...

I am exhausted, I feel an alien that doesn't quite know why it can't be fully like the others. I fear I will never be able to work, and this in turn makes me feel lazy or unworthy of love.

I have tried to cope, but this has left me quite disabled -or so I feel. And even with reasonable work experience and degrees, I feel just drained.

I was told this was autisc burnout, but sometimes I doubt it will go away. It feels like stuck with me.

I wonder how this maps to your case, or anything that comes to your mind.

If you feel so too, I share my love to you.

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  • Unknown said:
    There is like an oscillation: trying, failing, trying, failing..

    I get this and it hit me early in my career so I took a very logical approach to it and worked out where I was failing or what was stressing me to fail and tried to learn how to cope with those specific things.

    Some I learned to tolerate better (meditation helps with this), some I learned different ways of doing (e.g. scripting helped a lot with user interactions at work) and some became a long, slow learning curve (becoming a manager and influencing upper management).

    For me it was realising that the common factor in all these situations was me - that meant I was the one who had to bend before I broke so developing the skills to keep going in a way I could survive helped me do this.

    When the burnout really ramps up I do find meditation can bring me down, especially with a day or so out of work (weekends are good for this) so long as you don't have commitments.

    In the end you can only every count on yourself so I found having the right tools really made the difference.

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  • Unknown said:
    There is like an oscillation: trying, failing, trying, failing..

    I get this and it hit me early in my career so I took a very logical approach to it and worked out where I was failing or what was stressing me to fail and tried to learn how to cope with those specific things.

    Some I learned to tolerate better (meditation helps with this), some I learned different ways of doing (e.g. scripting helped a lot with user interactions at work) and some became a long, slow learning curve (becoming a manager and influencing upper management).

    For me it was realising that the common factor in all these situations was me - that meant I was the one who had to bend before I broke so developing the skills to keep going in a way I could survive helped me do this.

    When the burnout really ramps up I do find meditation can bring me down, especially with a day or so out of work (weekends are good for this) so long as you don't have commitments.

    In the end you can only every count on yourself so I found having the right tools really made the difference.

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