- Good afternoon I'm new here not quite sure where to start but here goes, step son is 9 years old been on waiting list since May 2024 problems with school as last year son was suspended for 2 days for hitting another child, the school at the time wanted my step son to go home for dinner at lunchtime and bring him back after his mum my partner had a meeting with the school and explained as the school is aware of the issues that we face trying to make our step son/son stay in school because he dosent want to be there due to can't concentrate to loud ect to much going on he feels that children are always trying to get him into trouble this is what he has told his mum, he dosent really tell me a lot but his mum is the one who goes though it all with him like the outburst of behaviour, so with that being said my partner suggested a reduced time table with my son was doing it was from 9 till 12 he did that for a period of 5 weeks with that in place my step son was more happy settled in a routine happy to leave for school in morning ect moving forward my step son behavior is very unpredictable don't know what to say I feel as a step dad I'm walking on egg shells all the time we have had several organisations on board to help with this like resilient families ect but the 2 times they have came out they have only informed us recently that it was the wrong team we need the cans team I think they was to come in and support this he has also had a educational physogist report he had an IDP individual development plan from the school that needs to be amended we have all these people on board but I just feel as a step dad that we're being judged and what exactly are they looking into I'm worrying every single day now we are at a point where we have moved to our new home back in April 2025 we moved because our landlord wanted to sell our old house so we have another house now it is 40 min walk to school with mum can't do because she is so physical unable to walk due to health reasons I'm fit and healthy in that respect so I get my son down to school every day but there are days when he has refused to go into school he won't open up and tell the reason to the teachers so mum has to be his voice he is still on a reduced time table it is from 9.10 till 1.00 at the moment I'm just so on edge full of nerves as also we had in our old property when my step son was not attending school even myself and his mum would walk him down to school he still would not want to go into school a visit from the educational welfare officer she came out one day and made my anxiety( step dad) go though the roof she knocked on our door I opened the door she said am I step dad I said yes she said is mum in I said yes sitting having her lunch my step son was home at the time playing on his VR in kitchen she walked straight pass me into the living room said I'm so so and slammed her hand down on the sofa looked at us both and said to my step son why ain't you in school it's the law my partner responded by saying we know this have you read any reports on our step son she said no and that was it that kicked off my anxiety to the maximum to the point now of I'm worrying every single day I honestly want this NDT assessment to come quicker for peace of mind I want to know all that I'm feeling is normal I want some one to ask me questions because I feel as partners me and my partner are doing everything we can but I still feel very anxious on edge please can some one reach out to me we have also took my step son to the GP but now he refuses to go so they are saying with these fast things spinning for him he feels very lack of concentration ect outburst that there is nothing they can do they have said this to my partner which my partner has told me they said because it's a nero logical condition that needs to be assessment so I'm like what do we do now my step son is going to school now but like I said I'm going though so much all I want is the support for my step son and for us without feeling that I'm being checked out and same for my partner many thanks and sorry for the long conversation
