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Megumi

Hii everybody,

This year I found out I had autism. It was once said before but I never got a diagnosis because my parents couldn't accept it. I'm gifted, so I couldn't have autism. But I wanted to know so I got tested. I have autism. I later told my parents. They where more open the expected. But now I really struggle at home and don't know what to do. I always hated touch and it's hard for me when people touch me, especially my family. I don't know why, same with feelings, I can't regonise them. Especially love, I don't know how it feels, I don't miss my parents when I'm away, but I can miss my dog. But also saying I love you to my parents, is really hard for me.

There are also arguments at home, I struggle alot with doing things unexpectedly or doing things and having to immediately leave after. But also I don't notice it if I have to do obvious things. But what causes the most arguments is when they ask who did something, and I say I didn't and I defend myself. It causes arguments and I hear my parents talking about it behind my back that I'm selfish and have to say that I'm wrong. When I know I'm not wrong.

Sometimes I can get angry when they say do something when I'm already doing it. I don't know why.

My parents say I have to change, that I have to learn, and that they don't have to change. How do I do that? Is there somebody else struggling with to or have advice?

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  • Megumi said:
    My parents say I have to change, that I have to learn

    Hi and welcome, Megumi.

    You cannot change your Autism. It's part of who you are. Your parents need to learn that. You'll probably have to help them.

    You probably also need to learn about who you are, as you've likely always felt different but not known why. Now that you have an answer, you can explore what it all means.

    Nothing you've described is in any way out of the ordinary for the majority on this forum. We understand exactly what you're saying and can empathise with how you're feeling. We'll all do our best to help and support you as you need it.

    And those three little words? I write them in a card. I can never seem to speak them out loud. The more I mean them, the harder it is to speak them.

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  • Megumi said:
    My parents say I have to change, that I have to learn

    Hi and welcome, Megumi.

    You cannot change your Autism. It's part of who you are. Your parents need to learn that. You'll probably have to help them.

    You probably also need to learn about who you are, as you've likely always felt different but not known why. Now that you have an answer, you can explore what it all means.

    Nothing you've described is in any way out of the ordinary for the majority on this forum. We understand exactly what you're saying and can empathise with how you're feeling. We'll all do our best to help and support you as you need it.

    And those three little words? I write them in a card. I can never seem to speak them out loud. The more I mean them, the harder it is to speak them.

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