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How to get your loved ones to understand thr importance of speical intretrwst and info dimping

190E(Taylor’s version)

So this hasn’t been a huge issue until now as my partner likes some of thr tv I have and ganes I have as speical interests and some music too but sometimes if I info dump too deep or if it’s trains buses all I get is uh huh or right ok you said etc

bit wirh Taylor swift it’s gone tj a new levels she’s like omg you with stop talking avout  her and she’s your phone back ground kit me to te like I said if she’d let me even take pictures of her I’d have them set as a pair 

but it’s almost like she thinks I want her to be Taylor which is just silly really 

if on some miracle I could have Taylor in my life it would be as a friend or mentor i wouldn’t Dudley go bye bye swift is here

plus all that aside becuase it’s all fantasy haha it’s like she should know by now how my speical interests go

oh and she’s saying img you’ve been into her for a week which like ive said is t true yes it’s only crossed into a speical interest this past week becuse I started to let my self enjoy it more now that I’m unmasking but not matter what I get these responses

like she doesn’t mind my other two music tattoos but she went mad that im getting a Taylor one like what? 

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  • 190E(Taylor’s version) said:
    bit wirh Taylor swift it’s gone tj a new levels she’s like omg you with stop talking avout  her

    There are times when it helps to see that what is fun for us is actually quite annoying for NTs so we have to decide whether we have the right to annoy other people or choose not to overshare.

    190E(Taylor’s version) said:
    if on some miracle I could have Taylor in my life it would be as a friend or mentor i wouldn’t Dudley go bye bye swift is here

    I think it is more that you choose to make Taylor more interesting than your partner when what your partner probably needs to hear is "she is only a musician, you are mother of my child, the light of my life and I worship you" sort of thing.

    In relationships there is a careful line needs to be drawn when showing attention to other people as it can hurt your partners feelings even when we don't see this as being logical. I think it is because we don't feel things the same way as NTs do, but it pays to learn about this and save a lot of hassle for you and some pain for your partner.

    These are just my thoughts on it - feel free to ignore.

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  • 190E(Taylor’s version) said:
    bit wirh Taylor swift it’s gone tj a new levels she’s like omg you with stop talking avout  her

    There are times when it helps to see that what is fun for us is actually quite annoying for NTs so we have to decide whether we have the right to annoy other people or choose not to overshare.

    190E(Taylor’s version) said:
    if on some miracle I could have Taylor in my life it would be as a friend or mentor i wouldn’t Dudley go bye bye swift is here

    I think it is more that you choose to make Taylor more interesting than your partner when what your partner probably needs to hear is "she is only a musician, you are mother of my child, the light of my life and I worship you" sort of thing.

    In relationships there is a careful line needs to be drawn when showing attention to other people as it can hurt your partners feelings even when we don't see this as being logical. I think it is because we don't feel things the same way as NTs do, but it pays to learn about this and save a lot of hassle for you and some pain for your partner.

    These are just my thoughts on it - feel free to ignore.

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  • in reply to Iain

    I mean I did say to her that it’s because she’s such an influential musican snd nothing more 

    plus she never gets like this when indi my Yuri the clown impression or anything else 

    well she gets pretty irritated at most my vocal atoms etc but im kind of hoping my unmasking is just new to her snd to me it’s not new but it’s new that ik nkt hiding it all inside

    i think mabie I need some irl swiftie friends(ideally mostly other males too I think) but you know I find it hard to make friends and I only have my world friends and my autism group friends non of which like the circus or trains or Taylor or buses or micro computer those friends i share interests of video games general music(rock blue dance etc) and history 

    there must be a middle ground becuase as much as it hurts to say if there isn’t a middle ground we won’t be able ti be together Much longer 

    i even told her if I did have a picture of her(my oh that is) on my phone she’s be on the app screen which gets more screen time than my Lock Screen as I use the phone for everything and it’s only really locked in work and I do always have my Lock Screen as a Bobbie always have always will 

    I get it she’s not into Taylor thats why I normaly listen to Taylor and tbh most of my music alone(she’s not really into elo or traffic or reel big fish either!or wax fang or pink flloyd either)