Question about anxiety around misunderstanding meaning

Hi - I'm a first-time poster here, 44 years old, and fairly recently diagnosed with autism - approx 2 years ago. During the period post-diagnosis I've been heavily reflecting on things that have been difficult over the years and things that continue to be challenging but that I've been putting a brave face on the whole time (and continue to).

My question to the community here is do many of you suffer strong anxiety when you feel like a person (or persons) have communicated something and that there is an intention behind the message but you're not absolutely clear what that message is? It's driving me nuts and I'm realising that it's been driving me nuts my whole life. I feel a strong sense that people are often putting pressure on me to be a certain way and to react to thing, or behave in general, in a particular way adhering to a kind of societal code I'm not aware of all the time.

I guess I'm just using this forum as a way of saying what I'm feeling in a community that might be able to sympathise with. Very interested to hear of others' experiences similar to this.

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  • Assuming the anxiety is not coming to you some time later once you've processed the information, the best thing is to seek clarification at the time.

    Uncertainty causes problems which is why you feel uneasy. The solution is to avoid the uncertainty. Assumptions are the main causes of problems.

    It is not normally an issue to confirm things. Part of active listening is to summarize which captures any misunderstandings.

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  • Assuming the anxiety is not coming to you some time later once you've processed the information, the best thing is to seek clarification at the time.

    Uncertainty causes problems which is why you feel uneasy. The solution is to avoid the uncertainty. Assumptions are the main causes of problems.

    It is not normally an issue to confirm things. Part of active listening is to summarize which captures any misunderstandings.

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