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I don't know how to handle this

Crystal

I'm in a situation with someone who I thought was a friend, but now i realise may not be.    I can't explain too much of the details as they may read it because they are autistic too.   I'm trying to learn from this, but it's hard.    I would speak direct to them but I don't think they'll change.  I already tried to speak about something else.

I just needed to say something.

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  • That sounds really tough, and it makes sense you’d feel conflicted. Sometimes we hope a friendship is mutual, but then we start noticing patterns that don’t feel right. It’s okay to acknowledge that—even if the other person doesn’t change. What you can do is focus on what you need to feel safe and respected, and set boundaries that protect that. Learning from it doesn’t mean blaming yourself, but rather understanding what you want in friendships going forward. It’s completely valid to step back if staying close feels draining or hurtful.

  • in reply to 73290

    Thank you for your response.    Yes, I did notice some differences, but I kept doubting myself.   One of the main things though, which I really thought about yesterday and overnight, is that sometimes I don't like the way I myself have been when we've spent time together.    I think, even though it's hard to be alone,  I need that space from them because of that too.  We're just different. 

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  • in reply to 73290

    Thank you for your response.    Yes, I did notice some differences, but I kept doubting myself.   One of the main things though, which I really thought about yesterday and overnight, is that sometimes I don't like the way I myself have been when we've spent time together.    I think, even though it's hard to be alone,  I need that space from them because of that too.  We're just different. 

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