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I don't know how to handle this

Crystal

I'm in a situation with someone who I thought was a friend, but now i realise may not be.    I can't explain too much of the details as they may read it because they are autistic too.   I'm trying to learn from this, but it's hard.    I would speak direct to them but I don't think they'll change.  I already tried to speak about something else.

I just needed to say something.

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  • Is it possibly a misunderstanding? Miscommunication is a feature.

    Try not to assume you know what they are thinking. Ask them, then you'll know.

    Can you get a second opinion?

    Ultimately though not everyone has your best interests at heart, so you need to look after yourself. Just try to be sure. As has been suggested in other threads, sleep on it. It's a good way to filter things.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    Hi  , they didn't invite me to something, they didn't mention it at all, even when walking right near me to go.   

    You're right about trying not to make assumptions though.   Thank you.   

    There's noone around to get a second opinion with.   I didn't want to be pushy.    I think I need some space from contact with them.   Thanks for your suggestion to sleep on it.   Thanks very much for writing.

  • in reply to Crystal

    Are you hurt they didn't invite you?

    1. Would you have gone anyway?
    2. Did they think you would not be interested?
    3. Did they think you knew already?
    4. Did they just not think of you as they were too worried about how they were going to cope?
    5. Did they just want to have their own life?

    I might be nothing. It might be something.  Hard to tell.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    I think it hasn't hit me yet.   

    I don't think I did anything wrong as such, but maybe we're just not meant to be close friends.

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