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Myself and my wonderful son!!!

Worriedmother16

I was told at the school gates when my boy was in year 1 that he may have autistic  traits on a Friday no less and then went home and told my husband completely in shock. It caused a rift between us as in some ways I could agree with some of the things they  said but my husband was adamant that they were attacking the little boy he adores and have not given him a chance as he was so young. A couple of years  later it is apparent to both of us that our son struggles especially in social settings even tho he really wants to be involved just doesn’t always knows how and becomes frustrated. He is 9 now and struggled with the changes that comes with life. I feel very fortunate that his is able to tell me so that we can help him. 
I hope this reaches the write forum as I believe a lot of information is presented in terns  of non verbal or high learning development needs and I am in no way dismissing that and the problems you face but I would also love to speak to those whose children can voice their emotions but they are struggling as they feel that that they are different and cannot understand why. 

Thank you for listening Jackie x

  • Hello Jackie, there is a good deal of advice in the Help section of this site - https://autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/school-education 

    Hopefully this can give some good pointers for you in general around this.

    Have you spoken with the schools Special Educational Needs Co-Ordinator (SENCO) as offering help and advice is a big part of their job?

    A good way to get further focussed help is to deal with one or two issues at a time and ask about them here - we have plenty of people with experience or knowledge that can offer their thoughts, although it is worth noting we cannot offer medical or legal advice due to site rules.

    Do you or your husband have an autism diagnosis? The reason I ask is it is highly hereditory (ie inherited through the genes of one or both parents). The benefits of knowing is that it lets the affected party know, understand some of the challenges it brings and be able to take steps to improve their life which will result in lower stress and an improved ability to understand your son.

  • Hello Jackie, hope you are well. My son is 7 and I’m pretty certain he’s autistic although not diagnosed but on his way to be assessed. He has struggled to fit into groups preferring one on one with friends and doesn’t like the inclusion of too many when playing games. My son doesn’t appear too bothered by not being in the crowd but adores this one friend he’s close to. He also gets frustrated over things very easily and expects things to work one way all the time, this is more apparent when his tablet crashes or he loses a game. His frustrations at school have appeared due to plans changing suddenly, activity’s that were scheduled for that particular time of day didn’t come to pass leaving him feeling sad, angry and defeated is the best way of putting it. He comes home very irritable and this is probably because he’s tired from masking all day. As for any development or language delays nothing as of yet and given he’s now almost 8 I am pretty confident there won’t be any. He’s a little mini Sheldon if anything.