Following from a discussion on this discussion about the way threads are locked or removed when someone if offended by the content which remain within the rules ( Why Did Number Leave This Place? ) I thought it worth having a poll to see if there in an interest in requesting a change to the way these posts are moderated.
Look just blame me for it. I wanted my comments removing and I couldn’t do it as I didn’t have permission so I asked the mods to do it for me. I wasn’t expecting them to lock the thread I didn’t even ask for that. I’ll send proof of my emails in screenshots if I have to! Though I would crop my email address out! I wasn’t expecting all this to happen, it’s like a volcano has erupted and it’s my fault. I wish I never voiced my views now I thought that what the forum was about. I can’t help but feel responsible but must it be rubbed in my face? If people had just understood my views of why I was uncomfortable!
If people had just understood my views of why I was uncomfortable!
I believe I do get it. I sincerely hope that I do.
People are allowed to be uncomfortable - about anything which is their own perspective - that is because each person owns their own emotions.
Nobody else has the right to tell a person what or how they should / ought to feel about anything.
Blame is not relevant here and there is nothing to justify.
The recent days have highlighted an opportunity for our community to work together to explore and learn how to adapt so that we might best serve and support the whole of our community.
Ahh I see, that makes sense. I guess I’m still fairly new here but I do feel like a spoil spore that’s all. Guess you could blame this EUPD I recently got diagnosed with. I noticed before I joined there was a post about assisted dying but I never said anything in that because I knew I would find that very upsetting and disturbing for many personal reasons (plus I’m squeamish) but I respect everyone’s views in hope they accept I’m squeamish. Sorry if that went off topic
I don't think you should appologise either, you asked for posts you'd made to be removed, not the whole thread to be shut down. I would question if you asking for posts to be removed was the reason the thread was shut down? Plenty of people have asked for posts to be removed and its not caused the whole thread to be shut, I think there's more to it than you.
I often feel talked down too, told off and have suffered from attempts to shame me, fortunatley I can sit on the naughty step and heckle from there!
Thank you. As I said I just didn’t want to cause a commotion that’s all and I admit I overreacted, could say that’s an automatic response of mine as I don’t like being told off or shamed and I’ve had a lot of that growing up. Probably the reason why I have EUPD!
There are often threads I find difficult too.
Sometimes it is obvious from the subject line (so I skip those ones).
Other times a thread starts off fine then twists off down an unexpected rabbit hole and you (as just the reader) didn't realise until too late that you wish you hadn't read it at all.
Sometimes it is a tough but important thread - demanding hours / days of thoughts before you decide if you will participate in that topic at all (or just on your own terms).
Sometimes uncomfortable things are part of growing, other times they may best be left well alone. There may be a future better time to re-visit a particular topic.
Other times I might read a thread and think about things in more detail - but just monitor the discussion and debate, learning from those who have firsthand lived experience, rather than feeling ready to participate in a thread myself.
We all have different life pressures, energy levels and depths of emotion to juggle, balance and navigate.
You, equally as with everyone else here, will over time; doubtless be able to share with and teach to our community numerous things - as we support one another.
There are often threads I find difficult too.
Sometimes it is obvious from the subject line (so I skip those ones).
Other times a thread starts off fine then twists off down an unexpected rabbit hole and you (as just the reader) didn't realise until too late that you wish you hadn't read it at all.
Sometimes it is a tough but important thread - demanding hours / days of thoughts before you decide if you will participate in that topic at all (or just on your own terms).
Sometimes uncomfortable things are part of growing, other times they may best be left well alone. There may be a future better time to re-visit a particular topic.
Other times I might read a thread and think about things in more detail - but just monitor the discussion and debate, learning from those who have firsthand lived experience, rather than feeling ready to participate in a thread myself.
We all have different life pressures, energy levels and depths of emotion to juggle, balance and navigate.
You, equally as with everyone else here, will over time; doubtless be able to share with and teach to our community numerous things - as we support one another.
I don't think you should appologise either, you asked for posts you'd made to be removed, not the whole thread to be shut down. I would question if you asking for posts to be removed was the reason the thread was shut down? Plenty of people have asked for posts to be removed and its not caused the whole thread to be shut, I think there's more to it than you.
I often feel talked down too, told off and have suffered from attempts to shame me, fortunatley I can sit on the naughty step and heckle from there!
Thank you. As I said I just didn’t want to cause a commotion that’s all and I admit I overreacted, could say that’s an automatic response of mine as I don’t like being told off or shamed and I’ve had a lot of that growing up. Probably the reason why I have EUPD!
