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Why Did Number Leave This Place?

Number

Dear Fellow Online Community users,

NAS purport to encourage the adult autistic community to share and talk here ...... albeit within RULES which they set ..... which is obviously both essential and fair enough.

However, NAS also readily, happily, shamelessly and without ANY warning, simply terminate any such discussions at will, even when they READILY and OPENLY CONFIRM that no rules are being broken WHATSOEVER at that point THEY choose to terminate a discussion.

If adult autists can't discuss what's on their minds HERE.......then what - LITERALLY - is the point of having an 18+ adult-only autistic COMMUNITY forum space?

If we are given rules to abide by, and abide by them, but are also subject to unilateral and unjustified termination of our discussions.....then there is ZERO hope for this place?

With utter disgust, and disbelief (again - within the space of 24 hours.......when I'm not even "here" any more!)

Number.

PS - I CERTAINLY don't want to discuss pornography in this place.......but I WILL defend the rights of those who do wish to do so, within the rules set by Der current Management!!

PPS - If you mistake the above for hyperbole - please take a look at the (now locked thread) entitled "What do you think about pornography from Autistic perspective."

Next-level Shameful !?

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  • Look if you want you can blame me. I asked a mod to remove a comment I made as I was getting negative responses which I wasn’t expecting, I was hoping for more support. Look I’ll leave this site if I’m just the spoil spore Karen or whatever the term is these days. As you said I should have just sodding ignored the thing. I was only wanting to voice my trauma 

  • in reply to Elfilis

    Venting trauma is EXACTLY what this place should be for!  PLEASE....vent away......without fear or favour!  That is PRECISELY what I am advocating for (albeit within whatever rules exist at that time - whether we like them or not.)  I have ZERO problem with you stating whatever case you feel you need to make......or to be MORE precise......I desperately want ANYONE AND EVERYONE to be able to that, within the rules that exist here (whether those rules be right or wrong.)

    As I am sure you can imagine and appreciate, some people here have (I would imagine) an equal and opposite GENUINE trauma associated with lack of intimacy, sexual loneliness, shame and congested thoughts that are WHOLLY dichotomous to yours, but also equally valid?

    I want to see balance, respect, tolerance, variety and health in this place.  It definitely existed here once.  I want it back.....and rest assured, that desire is not for me (I'm alright Jack....in the round.....I'm old.....and relatively setlled....but want people who were once like me ie ON THE EDGE OF INSANITY to find this as a genuine haven, safe & tolerant place....for AUTISTIC PEOPLE AGAIN!?

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  • in reply to Elfilis

    Venting trauma is EXACTLY what this place should be for!  PLEASE....vent away......without fear or favour!  That is PRECISELY what I am advocating for (albeit within whatever rules exist at that time - whether we like them or not.)  I have ZERO problem with you stating whatever case you feel you need to make......or to be MORE precise......I desperately want ANYONE AND EVERYONE to be able to that, within the rules that exist here (whether those rules be right or wrong.)

    As I am sure you can imagine and appreciate, some people here have (I would imagine) an equal and opposite GENUINE trauma associated with lack of intimacy, sexual loneliness, shame and congested thoughts that are WHOLLY dichotomous to yours, but also equally valid?

    I want to see balance, respect, tolerance, variety and health in this place.  It definitely existed here once.  I want it back.....and rest assured, that desire is not for me (I'm alright Jack....in the round.....I'm old.....and relatively setlled....but want people who were once like me ie ON THE EDGE OF INSANITY to find this as a genuine haven, safe & tolerant place....for AUTISTIC PEOPLE AGAIN!?

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  • in reply to Elfilis

    It's no bother - and thank you for that.  I genuinely want this to be a place where people can say what they need to, act how they need to, be how they feel they need to.....to be comfortable.......but NEVER impose themselves on others.

    That spirit of acceptance, calm and tolerance has been lost from this space....and I think that, for the good of you and me and for all the other autists out there that need a safe space "just to be" (or find their feet in their current confusions) - we now need to "push back gently" and respectfully against what I see happening now in this space.

    To be honest, I truly think most people come here for varied and safe company and COMMUNITY.  Advice, support and well being flows from that COMMUNITY........rather than a community flowing from diktat and advice.

    I might be wrong - but I have good experiential evidence to support that hypothesis.......whereas what I mainly see here at the moment, is NOT HEALTHY.

    We are the best support and comfort for each other......irrespective of our differences.....I have honestly come to understand that we FUNDAMENTALLY have the same wiring, and can therefore readily regulate ourselves, if we have CLEAR AND UNIFORMLY APPLIED RULES with gentle, intuitive, calm and measured moderation to "push back gently"....like they did so VERY skilfully and successfully when I first appeared in this place.

  • in reply to Number

    I can understand that and thank you for making me feel better. I haven’t been here all that long (like just over a month) so I’m still getting to know the site better.