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Why Did Number Leave This Place?

Number

Dear Fellow Online Community users,

NAS purport to encourage the adult autistic community to share and talk here ...... albeit within RULES which they set ..... which is obviously both essential and fair enough.

However, NAS also readily, happily, shamelessly and without ANY warning, simply terminate any such discussions at will, even when they READILY and OPENLY CONFIRM that no rules are being broken WHATSOEVER at that point THEY choose to terminate a discussion.

If adult autists can't discuss what's on their minds HERE.......then what - LITERALLY - is the point of having an 18+ adult-only autistic COMMUNITY forum space?

If we are given rules to abide by, and abide by them, but are also subject to unilateral and unjustified termination of our discussions.....then there is ZERO hope for this place?

With utter disgust, and disbelief (again - within the space of 24 hours.......when I'm not even "here" any more!)

Number.

PS - I CERTAINLY don't want to discuss pornography in this place.......but I WILL defend the rights of those who do wish to do so, within the rules set by Der current Management!!

PPS - If you mistake the above for hyperbole - please take a look at the (now locked thread) entitled "What do you think about pornography from Autistic perspective."

Next-level Shameful !?

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  • Look if you want you can blame me. I asked a mod to remove a comment I made as I was getting negative responses which I wasn’t expecting, I was hoping for more support. Look I’ll leave this site if I’m just the spoil spore Karen or whatever the term is these days. As you said I should have just sodding ignored the thing. I was only wanting to voice my trauma 

  • in reply to Elfilis

    I really don't think Number's post was supposed to be a blame game. I certainly don't think they want anyone to leave the forum. Asking for a comment you made to be removed is very different to asking mods to shut it down. And people are entitled to their feelings about that thread. Numbers point is that if we start locking threads because it makes someone uncomfortable, we block someone else's outlet. I think the post is more towards the mods than any individuals on here.

  • in reply to Expecto_Patronum

    Hmm well if you say so but I can’t help but feel responsible here. Personally I think sensitive topics like porn should be against the rules or as you say at least have a trigger warning. I wasn’t here at the time when there seemed to be a discussion on the assisted dying in the uk becoming legal but again that can be a sensitive topic. 

  • in reply to Number

    Hi there Number, thank you for your reply. I completely understand what you are saying and I agree about the rules. It is very understandable so thank you for being kind and understanding my point of view. 

  • in reply to Elfilis

    Dear sister/brother/or another.......PLEASE don't misinterpret my motives here!

    Again - I genuinely thank you for peeping up too! = That is what communities do!

    I have zero difficulty in understanding, appreciating, and accepting what you say above = to me, it is perfectly reasonable, reasoned and fair.

    As you can imagine Elfillis......with these genuine dichotomies present in my head.....at ALL TIMES....because I am an autist....through-and-through.......I personally need RULES.  I will always do my best to abide by rules set....but equally do my best to influence that "rule setting" wherever I can.

    Personally - I don't know if you are right, or if I am right......and frankly, I genuinely don't mind which is decided up!  HOWEVER.....when that rule is set.....it should either be adhered to by all....or all hell will break loose?!

    I raised this thread here, because my perceptions tell me that here, on NAS at this moment in time, all hell is breaking loose........and people who want help, need help, and seek help here......and now dropping through the net.......BADLY!!

    I think a sensible, calm and logical discussion needs to be held NOW!

    Again - I thank you for making your case......with honestly, without apology....and with reasoned human intellect.  Respect to you - and with thanks. 

  • in reply to Expecto_Patronum

    Ahh I see. I completely agree with you there. We are all different I suppose.

  • in reply to Elfilis

    The difficult with sensitive topics is everyone is going to be sensitive to something because that's how life is, especially with autism. You would then have to ban any discussion surrounding mental health etc and then suddenly people's safe place to go for support is nothing more than idle chat.

    Bullying would be another example. That comes up time and time again because of social interaction issues discussions. That may be a very triggering comment to some.

    Sensitive topics are subjective. What one person is sensitive to is very different to another.

    I think we all need to think carefully about what we are naming threads and then think even more carefully about whether it is the right thread for us to enter.

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  • in reply to Elfilis

    The difficult with sensitive topics is everyone is going to be sensitive to something because that's how life is, especially with autism. You would then have to ban any discussion surrounding mental health etc and then suddenly people's safe place to go for support is nothing more than idle chat.

    Bullying would be another example. That comes up time and time again because of social interaction issues discussions. That may be a very triggering comment to some.

    Sensitive topics are subjective. What one person is sensitive to is very different to another.

    I think we all need to think carefully about what we are naming threads and then think even more carefully about whether it is the right thread for us to enter.

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