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Why Did Number Leave This Place?

Number

Dear Fellow Online Community users,

NAS purport to encourage the adult autistic community to share and talk here ...... albeit within RULES which they set ..... which is obviously both essential and fair enough.

However, NAS also readily, happily, shamelessly and without ANY warning, simply terminate any such discussions at will, even when they READILY and OPENLY CONFIRM that no rules are being broken WHATSOEVER at that point THEY choose to terminate a discussion.

If adult autists can't discuss what's on their minds HERE.......then what - LITERALLY - is the point of having an 18+ adult-only autistic COMMUNITY forum space?

If we are given rules to abide by, and abide by them, but are also subject to unilateral and unjustified termination of our discussions.....then there is ZERO hope for this place?

With utter disgust, and disbelief (again - within the space of 24 hours.......when I'm not even "here" any more!)

Number.

PS - I CERTAINLY don't want to discuss pornography in this place.......but I WILL defend the rights of those who do wish to do so, within the rules set by Der current Management!!

PPS - If you mistake the above for hyperbole - please take a look at the (now locked thread) entitled "What do you think about pornography from Autistic perspective."

Next-level Shameful !?

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  • I didn't think much of it when I saw the locked thread but I think you have a point to be fair. I was really surprised when I saw that particular topic come up I must say but it was clear just by reading that sentence what the thread was about so I never went into the thread as I would be very uncomfortable discussing it. I think it should be as simple as that. I do think it is important for that reason that people are open and probably quite specific when naming their threads so that people don't get a shock and end up reading something that triggers them.

    It does start a problem with where do you draw the line. A lot of people on here, myself included, discuss mental health. And at times that can become quite dark and could intact be very triggering. But it would be hugely problematic to lock threads like that.

    I can understand a thread being shut down if the discussion is getting out of hand and might lead to rule breaking out of frustration and people getting upset. 

    I think there just needs to be a rule that if you are going to post about something that could be triggering to people, you make sure that is written in the name. Then common sense needs to prevail and if you're not comfortable with that particular subject, just don't open it.

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  • I didn't think much of it when I saw the locked thread but I think you have a point to be fair. I was really surprised when I saw that particular topic come up I must say but it was clear just by reading that sentence what the thread was about so I never went into the thread as I would be very uncomfortable discussing it. I think it should be as simple as that. I do think it is important for that reason that people are open and probably quite specific when naming their threads so that people don't get a shock and end up reading something that triggers them.

    It does start a problem with where do you draw the line. A lot of people on here, myself included, discuss mental health. And at times that can become quite dark and could intact be very triggering. But it would be hugely problematic to lock threads like that.

    I can understand a thread being shut down if the discussion is getting out of hand and might lead to rule breaking out of frustration and people getting upset. 

    I think there just needs to be a rule that if you are going to post about something that could be triggering to people, you make sure that is written in the name. Then common sense needs to prevail and if you're not comfortable with that particular subject, just don't open it.

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  • in reply to Expecto_Patronum

    Yes, I absolutely agree with all your words and caveats here.  It is simple and reasonable.

    Please be reassured that I am MOST DEFINITELY not a hell-raiser and trouble-maker type!

    My personal penchant is for growing Borage....rather than pornography.....so I will always be drawn to these "softer" matters (pun intended)....but that MOST DEFINITELY doesn't mean that I don't wish to share this "allegedly safe space" with people who want to talk about pornography!

    Whilst I don't share their particular penchant - and perhaps they won't share mine - I READILY expect us to find common ground, help and support from each other on all manner of other subjects.....because we are simply DIFFERENT.....because we are simply AUTISTIC!  

    I'm increasingly becoming (genuinely sick) watching people in need - arrive here - and then leave......because they aren't allow the "air" just to "be" in this place, with us type of socially homeless people!

    Thank you for peeping up, Expecto_Patronum.