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counselling doubts revisited

Mercury

Having spoken with the prospective therapist on phone they sounded a bit more convincing than the last few.  Question, they had a child who was neurodiverse, but does having a ND kid make one an expert in ND conditions? Just sayin'.  But I digress....

Anyway, I said the world won't let me be neurodiverse, I want to be neurotypical and conformity and modification is the only way to go and feel I needed planning, structure, and limit the amount of open-endedness.  Who the *** knows what they want 100% of the time?  They described themselves as "proactive", pretty much I'm expected to sort my own *** out, I suppose.  Not much different than every other thing I've tried that fizzled out or ended sourly.  If I did agree I'd potentially be waiting weeks or even months, so maybe I'll shop around.

Then again, does it truly help or is it just a placebo at best, making us pretend we feel better until life kicks one in the butt and we go back to square one?

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  • I'm not sure I understand what you're looking for.

    ASD can't be cured, you can't be NT. Neuro affirmative people will not tell you are broken or wrong, but will encourage you to appreciate the difference from a positive standpoint and not think negatively of yourself. They won't try mold you into NT.

    They can't tell you if you need therapy. You have to have a problem you want help with. Being  awake is not specific enough.

    It is not an illness, so a psychiatrist cannot prescribe something.

    Counsellors are not life coaches who will tell you what you do.

    Counsellors are for things like dealing with bereavement, loss of a job, etc. to help you think about specific events, not to know how to manage small talk. I don't think they are there to.analyse you.

    You need a psychologist for analysis. But this is also not going to help you. You know the issue, you're ND.

    You need to come to terms with that, they can help you talk through your thoughts and doubts and correct any cognitive biases or distortions. They can point out errors in your logic and reasoning and help you see more clearly.

    They are mostly there to act as a mirror to help you see yourself. So you can understand what you are doing. They don't restrain you, that's your job.

    So what you are after are specific things you need help with.

    They can't make you cope with flickering lights, or sensitive hearing, or tell you how to communicate easily.

    They can help with looping thoughts and depressive thinking.

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  • I'm not sure I understand what you're looking for.

    ASD can't be cured, you can't be NT. Neuro affirmative people will not tell you are broken or wrong, but will encourage you to appreciate the difference from a positive standpoint and not think negatively of yourself. They won't try mold you into NT.

    They can't tell you if you need therapy. You have to have a problem you want help with. Being  awake is not specific enough.

    It is not an illness, so a psychiatrist cannot prescribe something.

    Counsellors are not life coaches who will tell you what you do.

    Counsellors are for things like dealing with bereavement, loss of a job, etc. to help you think about specific events, not to know how to manage small talk. I don't think they are there to.analyse you.

    You need a psychologist for analysis. But this is also not going to help you. You know the issue, you're ND.

    You need to come to terms with that, they can help you talk through your thoughts and doubts and correct any cognitive biases or distortions. They can point out errors in your logic and reasoning and help you see more clearly.

    They are mostly there to act as a mirror to help you see yourself. So you can understand what you are doing. They don't restrain you, that's your job.

    So what you are after are specific things you need help with.

    They can't make you cope with flickering lights, or sensitive hearing, or tell you how to communicate easily.

    They can help with looping thoughts and depressive thinking.

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