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Feeling left out regardless of how people are with me

CedStowe

Hi, are their any articles that simply explain the feeling of being the odd one out/not feeling like part of a group even when that group hasn't done anything to warrant that feeling? I'm trying to explain it to someone but cannot. 

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  • It is a question of not belonging.

    Do you not belong because you really are different, or because you just think you are different.

    If you really are different then you will feel on the outside, even if people invite you in and you pretend to be involved. If you are masking it is not real. It is also tiring 

    If you just think you are different you will behave as if you are are create you own imaginary walls. These constrain you but are of your own making. The solution is to set yourself free and allow yourself to engage. Don't take yourself too seriously.

    I realised in Jan I had built walls to protect me, but they had become so high even the sun could not get in. Isolated at the bottom of a windowless tower is secure but trapped, safe but lonely. 

    Either get some windows, lower the walls or move out. 

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  • It is a question of not belonging.

    Do you not belong because you really are different, or because you just think you are different.

    If you really are different then you will feel on the outside, even if people invite you in and you pretend to be involved. If you are masking it is not real. It is also tiring 

    If you just think you are different you will behave as if you are are create you own imaginary walls. These constrain you but are of your own making. The solution is to set yourself free and allow yourself to engage. Don't take yourself too seriously.

    I realised in Jan I had built walls to protect me, but they had become so high even the sun could not get in. Isolated at the bottom of a windowless tower is secure but trapped, safe but lonely. 

    Either get some windows, lower the walls or move out. 

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