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Out of touch with culture?

aurelis

Does anyone feel as if they are out of touch with their own culture? I’ve grown up and been told that I’m washed from my culture. I’ve grown up knowing some things from family etc, but I don’t know if my autism has stopped me from understanding my culture as something deep in my heart and soul. It doesn’t feel connected, and when others know more about my own culture, it makes me feel as if I should know more.

its like not knowing pop culture. But can I really start trying to „study” pop culture just so I can catch up. Is there even a way to catch up at all?

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  • I get what you mean, I think it's something that happens when you get older, it also bothered me when I started mixing more with people from different backgrounds to mine, that they knew so much more, they were taught things that my school and friends and family wouldn't thought about, and if they did would of thought of as snobby. Things like art, politics, literature, theatre' listening to radio 4 rather than radio1, even trips to museums. I did do a dive into most of it, found what I like and what I don't. Pop culture has always been a bit of a mystery to me, I didn't like most pop music when I was growing up and still don't.

    I don't know your cultural background or heritage, but one of the things I've noticed is for the English is how embarassed we are about our folk culture, how it's looked down on and denigrated. It's like our past started with the Industrial revolution at the earliest and maybe WW 1 and 2. It's something I've talked about with friends from other countries and they find it odd that we celebrate our folk culture so little, a Spanish friend told me that even though she comes from the north of Spain and flamenco from the south, they're all incredibly proud of it and if a flamenco track is played at a disco or club, eveyone will start dancing, stamping thier feet and clicking their fingers. A German friend told me the same about Oompah music, obviously the Scots and Irish are incredibly proud of thier cultural heritage, even the Welsh after 800 years of suppression are.

    Its like if you're English the only cultural heritage you're allowed to have is that of Empire, which oppressed the ordinary English person almost or just as much as the Scots and Irish and others.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman
    TheCatWoman said:
    obviously the Scots and Irish are incredibly proud of thier cultural heritage, even the Welsh after 800 years of suppression are.

    Do you identify as Scottish or Welsh? I know you were born in Scotland and have obviously moved and eventually settled on a Welsh island but wondered where you felt you mostly "belonged" to.

    I was born and raised in Scotland, lived most of my adult life in England with spells in Germany and Brazil but always feel Scottish as an identity but have moulded myself to fit in with wherever I live.

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman
    TheCatWoman said:
    obviously the Scots and Irish are incredibly proud of thier cultural heritage, even the Welsh after 800 years of suppression are.

    Do you identify as Scottish or Welsh? I know you were born in Scotland and have obviously moved and eventually settled on a Welsh island but wondered where you felt you mostly "belonged" to.

    I was born and raised in Scotland, lived most of my adult life in England with spells in Germany and Brazil but always feel Scottish as an identity but have moulded myself to fit in with wherever I live.

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  • in reply to Iain

    I'm English, but I've lived in both Scotland and Wales, I don't feel I have a cultural identity as such, I don't identify with a lot of the flag waving, 'For England and St George' stuff, but then I don't really understand why anyone wears flags and the American thing of flag worship seems utterly strange and weird to me.

    I supose if I could be said to identify with anything it's the landscape itself, the places were my soul feels young, south Dorset, Somerset and the wild places of Scotland and Wales.

    I think not being Christian plays a part too, we're told we're a Christian country, but most white English aren't Christian, it seems that we keep Christian holidays of Xmas and Easter, but with the undertones of their previous Pagan festivals, eggs and rabbits at Easter, tree's, greenery and the darkest longest night of the year at xmas, even though most now agree that if you look at the "Xmas story" then Jesus was born around september and a lot of the "xmas story" was lifted from Mithraism.

    I can only live happily on the Western Seaboard, it's like I need the rain and wind and the everchanging skies or my soul dries up. It seems to have nothing to do with ancestry or anything as most of my family are from kent, Sussex and Wiltshire going back generations, we were quite probably here since the Anglo-Saxons and maybe before the Romans. Personally I hate that part of the country and don't feel at home there at all.