Newly diagnosed, people dropping away

Has anyone else found since diagnosis that people dropping away as you start to unmask? I’m actually thinking that the only person I’ll be left with is my 9 year old daughter and one or two friends. It’s shocking me to realise how many layers of masking there is and I keep peeling away more and more and of people don’t completely drop away then they go quiet, family, friends , acquaintances, in a way sometimes it’s a relief but it’s also lonely and scary but now I’m unmasking I can’t revert back as I now thats all fake and so meaningless. I’m questioning everything, all the weight I’ve carried all these years and all I wnat to do is protect my daughter as I’m pretty sure she is autistic too, she’s on the waiting list for assessment. Maybe she’s all I need, maybe it’s okay to be alone at least for now, maybe to speak your truth finds your true people , maybe what you think is family are strangers. It’s a very strange time.

Parents
  • Hi Chloe. I'm gearing up to peel a few layers off my own mask, so I'd be interested to hear more about your experience. What aspects of the real you do you think went down better or worse than others? A very personal question, of course, so feel free to ignore it. No offence taken in advance. Wink

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  • Hi Chloe. I'm gearing up to peel a few layers off my own mask, so I'd be interested to hear more about your experience. What aspects of the real you do you think went down better or worse than others? A very personal question, of course, so feel free to ignore it. No offence taken in advance. Wink

Children
  • Hello that’s absolutely fine, I think it’s my honesty and my clarity , less eye contact, some stimming, changing speech patterns , slower more pauses, standing up for myself , lessening my people pleasing. I think it’s the clarity and honesty, people react so badly , I never intentionally hurt it’s just me being me , it’s my opinions and they are sometimes to big for others to take when they’ve been used to a sweet lady who made herself small to please everyone else. I also think just telling people I’m autistic alone has caused the distance, I haven’t unmasked in front of my mum and she’s just plain withdrawn from me just because of my diagnosis