Newly diagnosed, people dropping away

Has anyone else found since diagnosis that people dropping away as you start to unmask? I’m actually thinking that the only person I’ll be left with is my 9 year old daughter and one or two friends. It’s shocking me to realise how many layers of masking there is and I keep peeling away more and more and of people don’t completely drop away then they go quiet, family, friends , acquaintances, in a way sometimes it’s a relief but it’s also lonely and scary but now I’m unmasking I can’t revert back as I now thats all fake and so meaningless. I’m questioning everything, all the weight I’ve carried all these years and all I wnat to do is protect my daughter as I’m pretty sure she is autistic too, she’s on the waiting list for assessment. Maybe she’s all I need, maybe it’s okay to be alone at least for now, maybe to speak your truth finds your true people , maybe what you think is family are strangers. It’s a very strange time.

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  • I wonder if people feel deceived as the person they saw is not the real you. Then they don't know whether to trust you.

    Some may be happy to adjust but others may not.

    You may have to keep some masking if you have people you really value.

    Do what makes you happiest. Some compromise may be needed as nothing is perfect 

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  • I wonder if people feel deceived as the person they saw is not the real you. Then they don't know whether to trust you.

    Some may be happy to adjust but others may not.

    You may have to keep some masking if you have people you really value.

    Do what makes you happiest. Some compromise may be needed as nothing is perfect 

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