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Newly diagnosed, people dropping away

Chloe1980

Has anyone else found since diagnosis that people dropping away as you start to unmask? I’m actually thinking that the only person I’ll be left with is my 9 year old daughter and one or two friends. It’s shocking me to realise how many layers of masking there is and I keep peeling away more and more and of people don’t completely drop away then they go quiet, family, friends , acquaintances, in a way sometimes it’s a relief but it’s also lonely and scary but now I’m unmasking I can’t revert back as I now thats all fake and so meaningless. I’m questioning everything, all the weight I’ve carried all these years and all I wnat to do is protect my daughter as I’m pretty sure she is autistic too, she’s on the waiting list for assessment. Maybe she’s all I need, maybe it’s okay to be alone at least for now, maybe to speak your truth finds your true people , maybe what you think is family are strangers. It’s a very strange time.

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  • I think if there was any level of fear that others may see or behave differently towards you once they understood you were autistic this may play a part? Depends, what do you think? Are you the type who is socially anxious and maybe projects what you think other people think about you onto them and convince yourself that’s what they believe? I think for us newly diagnosed with autism it’s a huge life changing moment and we wonder why others aren’t more interested or coming over to speak with us in depth about this new revelation. They are either too busy in their own lives and facing their own struggles or they lack insight in other people’s emotions themselves. I have found this forum particularly helpful when it comes to finding others with similar experiences of autism although it being a spectrum no one will fall exactly onto the same place on that spectrum. 

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  • I think if there was any level of fear that others may see or behave differently towards you once they understood you were autistic this may play a part? Depends, what do you think? Are you the type who is socially anxious and maybe projects what you think other people think about you onto them and convince yourself that’s what they believe? I think for us newly diagnosed with autism it’s a huge life changing moment and we wonder why others aren’t more interested or coming over to speak with us in depth about this new revelation. They are either too busy in their own lives and facing their own struggles or they lack insight in other people’s emotions themselves. I have found this forum particularly helpful when it comes to finding others with similar experiences of autism although it being a spectrum no one will fall exactly onto the same place on that spectrum. 

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