The fear of being perceived.

I am sure someone posted something along the lines of this recently but a video just popped up on my recommended on YouTube about the idea that some people on the spectrum have a fear of being perceived (experienced). I wonder if this fear or uncomfortable feeling comes from mind blindness in the sense that we lack the ability to understand and imagine what others may think of us, you know if we think badly of ourselves than why would anything else think differently from that? Or is it that we don’t always want others in our space, our energy fields and domains?. Giving direct eye contact is another level of being perceived and personally that feels way too intimate as if someone can almost read my mind and if eye contact does occur I am unable to imagine what they are thinking but if anything it must be something negative. The lady who posted the video is called Mikaela Ebbesson should you wish to check her out. 

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  • we lack the ability to understand and imagine what others may think of us

    I have no freakin' idea what anyone else thinks of me. Sometimes, I have to ask. Most of the time, I just live in ignorance. It gives me this permanent sense of insecurity. Am I doing things right? How did that comment land? Should I try something else? What if...?

    I think NTs assume they can read minds. This is not as odd as it might seem. Most people are NTs, so most people have minds that work in a way that is broadly similar. If an NT thinks that some other NT is thinking X, then it should not be a big surprise that they are often right. Then they meet an ND and they get it completely wrong, but still insist that they are right. Is that understandable? Yes. Is it fair? No, not at all.

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  • we lack the ability to understand and imagine what others may think of us

    I have no freakin' idea what anyone else thinks of me. Sometimes, I have to ask. Most of the time, I just live in ignorance. It gives me this permanent sense of insecurity. Am I doing things right? How did that comment land? Should I try something else? What if...?

    I think NTs assume they can read minds. This is not as odd as it might seem. Most people are NTs, so most people have minds that work in a way that is broadly similar. If an NT thinks that some other NT is thinking X, then it should not be a big surprise that they are often right. Then they meet an ND and they get it completely wrong, but still insist that they are right. Is that understandable? Yes. Is it fair? No, not at all.

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