• Replies 7 replies
  • Subscribers 84 subscribers
  • Views 677 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

The fear of being perceived.

Autismman

I am sure someone posted something along the lines of this recently but a video just popped up on my recommended on YouTube about the idea that some people on the spectrum have a fear of being perceived (experienced). I wonder if this fear or uncomfortable feeling comes from mind blindness in the sense that we lack the ability to understand and imagine what others may think of us, you know if we think badly of ourselves than why would anything else think differently from that? Or is it that we don’t always want others in our space, our energy fields and domains?. Giving direct eye contact is another level of being perceived and personally that feels way too intimate as if someone can almost read my mind and if eye contact does occur I am unable to imagine what they are thinking but if anything it must be something negative. The lady who posted the video is called Mikaela Ebbesson should you wish to check her out. 

Parents

  • I do not have mind blindness, but I do have a deep fear of being overlooked while performing tasks or of public speaking (I had to do this as part of my job, but it was extremely nerve-wracking). Personally, I think it is really fear of being judged. As autistic people, we are constantly scanning what others are doing, how they are behaving and consciously trying our best to copy them in order to fit in. We are essentially playing the role of being neurotypical, we are actors. Therefore, being perceived or judged is a bit like an actor being reviewed, and many actors, like autists, are insecure. Some actors do not read reviews because they might be negative or hurtful. The day-to-day experiences of autistic people tend to reinforce that the judgments of others can be, and often are, negative and hurtful.

  • in reply to Martin

    Yes being judged or criticised is something that I struggle with. I expect a lot of people do but it gets to my core, I feel like a paper doll who’s just been crumbled up and thrown to the wind, nothing grounding me down, lack of awareness of my core being. 

Reply Children
No Data