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Not diagnosed with autism

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I am 49 and recently went for my autism assessment and they have rung me this week to say I don't fit the criteria as I can communicate well, understand and use body language and have good eye contact.

It baffles me that in 3 hours of questioning they can just say that. 

Surly they should know that after a lifetime of masking some people can do quite well at acting the correct way.

Does the way adults are assessed need to be look at to reflect years of masking.

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  • This is rough and something I am concerned about when I have my assessment. I have wondered if I will find myself playing up my autistic traits, either consciously or otherwise.

    My therapist asked me if I had thought about what my feelings would be if I was told that they didn't consider me autistic. I had thought about this a bit, and it was one of the reasons why I might have decided against diagnosis. My response was that I would think they were wrong.

    You know yourself better than anyone and if you think, from everything you know about autism, that it best describes you, then you are correct. It's hard because the reason you wanted a diagnosis, I assume, is for the validation of your suspicions by someone else who knows what they are talking about. These people can (and do, regularly) get things wrong. It's just an opinion and you can choose whether or not to take it seriously.

  • in reply to McFrost

    The reason I wanted diagnoses at first was validation.

    However I have been struggling with getting reasonable adjustments at the place I work, they are waiting for a professional assessment.

    I know they should except my self diagnoses but they are been very bad at giving me any adjustments and instead gaslighting me.

    This has been going on for over a year occupational health and union are involved but local gouvernement has its own weird ways.

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  • in reply to McFrost

    The reason I wanted diagnoses at first was validation.

    However I have been struggling with getting reasonable adjustments at the place I work, they are waiting for a professional assessment.

    I know they should except my self diagnoses but they are been very bad at giving me any adjustments and instead gaslighting me.

    This has been going on for over a year occupational health and union are involved but local gouvernement has its own weird ways.

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