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Demand avoidant?

Tink

I just have a quick question for the group about demand avoidant behaviour and employment.

I am currently applying for part time jobs. I have had a couple of very positive interviews. Whilst waiting for the results however I am constantly panicking that I might actually be offered them! It occurred to me this is demand avoidant behaviour. I am panicking about the potential demands that will be made on me should I get the job. In this instance how on earth do I know if I actually want the job? Beyond just needing the money obviously.

I am finding it actually very hard to understand myself in this situation and know how I actually feel about a particular workplace, its people and the work tasks and whether I want to accept.

Has anyone else felt like this and do you have any advice?

Always grateful, Tink

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  • I thought this sort of stuff would come under the heading "normal paranoia", I think its quite normal to feel these things, especially when ones autistic. I'd be wary of talking yourself into another pathology, like demand avoidance, wheres the line between nervousness, being unsure, over thinking, and saying no to cut off your nose to spite your face?

    The truth is you won't know if you want the job until you've started doing it.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I second that, .

    Give it a go. Everyone is nervous starting a new job. For Autistic people, the need to change routines, people, managers (who I don't count as people ;), etc. is going to be tougher than for the average person.

    Best of luck! And you'll be fine.

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