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Autism and old people

abloner

Saying goodbye with some anguish and melancholy.

I launched in my micro possibilities a campaign on various sites in favor of some form of assistance for old age aspies .      Many of them have never been diagnosed, many of them don’t even know of the origins of their suffering. If they are so called high functioning, they may have thought, before the revelation, that they were “normal” people even as they had to go through an enormous amount of effort, and a constant feeling that there was something wrong, some sort of self deception and falsity in what they did, in their job and family life, if they had one, which rarely happens. They are normally single and loners. Fatigue was not a help in their  perception of their efforts. In a sense old aspies are left to manage their own winter by themselves. Wisdom is nowadays not commodity requested by society.

 Dependence is an act of begging, which not many can rely on for their insularity. At a certain age they normally have no more families or relatives. “Friends”, or, better, acquaintances disappear. An old aspie cannot protect anybody, and cannot receive protection. Are severe autistics in better condition? Donna Williams maintains that they are less desperate. I don’t know.

A blind, a deaf mute, a limp receive some assistance, if anything by the social services. Aspies are invisible.

 

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  • You build a bubble (or a burrow) and you live there for sometime in a relative peace, filtering, sometimes blocking, sometimes sieving external inputs: rarely, or perhaps often, as a persisting longing in the background of your consciousness, you are forced to open ajar an interstice, if not a window or a door (too dangerous, too dangerous!) and you administer with frugality the air entering, the voices, the words of people. The approaches of others may be well intentioned, and your caution, your reserve may be offensive for the other, or others. Sometimes you are obliged, by social or practical (the plumber) constraint, to open your door. It takes time to recover.

    Often your reserve is interpreted as sweetness, often you are seen as possible prey, and must defend yourself .

    Every speech act of other must be laboriously interpreted. What did he/she mean?

    Anyhow Asperger diagnosis is very recent (the ‘90s). And if you are over 60 you had to manage by yourself to survive. All your life you have been considered ***, shy but not needy of a particular approach, or attention, or, in your turn, of interpretation.

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  • You build a bubble (or a burrow) and you live there for sometime in a relative peace, filtering, sometimes blocking, sometimes sieving external inputs: rarely, or perhaps often, as a persisting longing in the background of your consciousness, you are forced to open ajar an interstice, if not a window or a door (too dangerous, too dangerous!) and you administer with frugality the air entering, the voices, the words of people. The approaches of others may be well intentioned, and your caution, your reserve may be offensive for the other, or others. Sometimes you are obliged, by social or practical (the plumber) constraint, to open your door. It takes time to recover.

    Often your reserve is interpreted as sweetness, often you are seen as possible prey, and must defend yourself .

    Every speech act of other must be laboriously interpreted. What did he/she mean?

    Anyhow Asperger diagnosis is very recent (the ‘90s). And if you are over 60 you had to manage by yourself to survive. All your life you have been considered ***, shy but not needy of a particular approach, or attention, or, in your turn, of interpretation.

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